Scars-We All Have Them

“Scars tell you where you’ve been.

 They do not have to dictate where you are going.”

One can not go through life without scars. We receive them every day. Some are scrapes and skinned places, bruises and some are scars on the heart. We receive them and we give them.

I would bet many are saying  ”I don’t give scars”.  But we do. We give them by our actions and our words just as they are given to us. This realization has always made me very conscious of what I say to people.

Some of us may look like this because we have so many wounds:

And some of us look like this.

And we can look like this on the inside and outside from wounds that leave scars. But it is when we look like this:

  that we need the most healing time. It is when we need a friend or loved one with plenty of these, only the emotional kind of band aid:

a friend that just sits with us, or holds our hands, or lets us cry or just says “I am here”.  I remember once a friend telling me as she cried on my shoulder…that a friend let you say the same things over and over until you got to the point you did not need to anymore.

When we lose someone, or we are hurt horribly, people usually do not want to hear it after the first couple of days. They send the signal that we should be “over it” and move on. Life does not work that way. Sometimes we need to talk about it until it loses the power on us and the potency and we are able to lay it on the table and say “ok I can deal with it now.

So, always remember…the scars are just a marker of where we have traveled in our lives. We are in charge of where we are going. It does not mean that what hurt us or wounded us no longer matters. It simply means that we no longer let it have control of our lives.

And that is my 2 cents for the day.