The Reality of Life

” Life is the reality you are creating for yourself.
Through your thoughts, feelings and actions – those thoughts, feelings or action, whether honest or dishonest, moral or immoral, with integrity or without integrity create the life you live in and that is the reality you have created for yourself- You have created your world and only you can change it.
Make a wonderful world that you would want to live in.”

Accepting responsibility for the life we have created is hard for some people because it is easier for them to blame others for the things going wrong instead of looking at their own choices and actions that caused their problems. It is never too late to correct the things we have done but that again is another choice….to stand up and be accountable for the mistakes we have made in life.

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I love this quote for it is about being accountable for our actions. Whatever we do…is that what we would want to do knowing we would no longer be here again?  For me, that means facing my creator and being accountable for the things I have done and makes me think about what I am doing on this side of heaven. I certainly do not want to be doing anything dishonest, immoral or unethical and know that will be what people remember me for. I realize that those that are this way all the time do not care what people may think when they are gone. But, I want to know that I am remembered for good things so it matters to me.

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Our lives are short in comparison to eternity and people think I am funny when I say I do not hold on to hate and anger. I find them wasted emotions. Now, I am not talking about righteous indignation over someone being injured or hurt. I am talking that hot anger …frothing at the mouth and losing the control of our mouths and saying and doing things we later regret. And hate?  I can not think of anyone I hate. I dislike certain people and certain behaviors such as lying, manipulating and unethical behavior but I do not hate anyone. To be honest, I have found I feel sorry for people who resort to this kind of behavior. Now, if you had asked me twenty or thirty years ago, I would have said I did get angry and I did hate. But time and age has taught me much and those are two things I just do not have the time or the effort to do.

I personally find that people who do those behaviors are the ones that also carry hate and anger because they believe they deserve this or that no matter how they obtain it. I am afraid that I am so honest that when a clerk has given me too much money back in change….I hand it back to them. If I have to obtain something from dishonest and manipulative methods, the true joy that comes with obtaining something really good is lost and I can not feel good about it.

‘The BEST “feeling” comes when you “realize”
that you are “perfectly” HAPPY without the things
you once thought you needed the most…’
- unknown

Now, I openly admit that son and I live simply and we are poor, living off of my disability and his 8.5 hours a week he gets paid for taking care of me. We are very happy and we have learned to wait on things. An example is my rollerball mouse got shorted when I spilled my coffee on it and the cordless regular mouse makes using the computer hard for me because of my coordination and it inflames my shoulder I injured when I fell. Now, not to worry for I will get another one on the third when my disability check comes in. We have learned to wait on things and to get it ourselves rather than do the woe is me and expect others to take care of it for us. But, I have seen people in my lifetime that use being poor as an excuse for dishonest and unethical behavior. It is not a good excuse ….in fact, it is no excuse in my book. It is the poorest excuse of all to me for just because I do not have something does not mean that I should deceive anyone to get it. Son and I have learned that many things we once thought we wanted we are perfectly happy without. I am sure I will make some people angry with this paragraph but it is the truth. Being poor is no excuse for being dishonest.

‘The PURPOSE of Life is to “Enjoy it”…
Enjoyment of life comes from feeling good about yourself.
Feeling good about yourself comes from doing the right thing.
It’s that simple! ! !’

- Dorothy Mendoza Row

No matter what shape we are in…monetarily, physically…our happiness is ours inside and up to us to foster it. Happiness does not come from the new car. Joy comes from the new car. It does not come from the new house or the new clothes or the raise…joy does. Happiness is something we have when we have nothing at all. I have seen people lose everything and yet they are still happy and you see it on their faces as they work to start over. You can not buy happiness, you can not steal it and you can not manufacture it with things. It is an oasis in the heart where there is peace and contentment no matter what you are enduring. We can be sad and still be a happy person. Sadness is like joy…it comes and goes. Happiness should remain intact within us.  It is a dance of the heart.

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Dancing with the heart is something we all should do. It is free and joyous and is where our happiness lies. Anyone can learn dance steps to dance with the feet but within hearts is our conscience and so when we dance with our hearts, we are dancing with our conscience and following what is right and good and that increases our happiness.

‘You never find yourself,
until you face the truth of being who you are…
Know yourself and the world knows you…as you really are’
- Hemanth Joshi

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