I have gotten all sorts of comments about me being such a positive person, even in spite of all I have gone through ranging from that I am such a strong person to “oh, you are just a Pollyanna”. Well, I believe that being positive is a choice. I can lay and whine and cry because life is not like I planned it or this or that goes wrong or I can find good in every day and be happy. And I choose happiness and seeing the good any day over always being sad, bitter or angry.
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I believe what someone told me once…whether you think you CAN or you think you CAN’T….you will be right. If we think we can not, then we will never try or only try half heartedly and of course we will fail. And if we think we can, we will put all we have in it and will succeed somehow. It is a choice.
I believe that we can be a victim and everything is everyone else’s fault or we can be a survivor and take responsibility for ourselves, our words and our actions. That includes stepping up to the plate when we do something that really was the wrong thing to do at the time and saying “you know…I was wrong. I am sorry”. A victim will blame everything else, make excuses to atone for what they did and never once look at their own behavior.
I learned a long time ago to always be grateful for the things and the people I have in my life. I am so blessed. Even with all my health problems, I am thankful and grateful because someone somewhere always has it worse than me. So, I try hard not to take people or things for granted because while I am taking something for granted, someone else is wishing they had it.
Life is a series of hurdles that we must cross and sometimes, people can stop and refuse to go over the hurdle and stay stuck in one place. Crossing the hurdle is overcoming the obstacle that lies in your path. That is what makes your character. If you sit and do nothing and are not willing to do the work to move your life in the direction you want, you will stay in the same rut and spin your wheels.
I have learned that it is nice when people help me, but when I lay back and let people help me do what I really can do for myself…that is being the victim. Allow those that want to help…help you with what you can not do…to assist you but not always be lifting you because after a while, they will get tired of lifting. People tell me I am strong. I am not strong in the sense they think. They just think I have a strong personality. I am strong because of the fight and battle and what I have overcome because I have assumed responsibility for myself and put forth the effort to keep fighting to move forward.
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