Life is so hard and we make so many twists and turns and have to make so many decisions that sometimes we wonder if we are doing the right thing. I have learned many things along this trail of mine and now am in the last third of my life and have found that these things sure make life so much easier. Sometimes we complicate things when we do not need to.
Below are things I have learned along the way and that took me years to learn and to reach the point I am at. I am not always right but one thing for certain….I am not always wrong either. Life is what we make it and if we can slow down and simplify life a little, then the life we can make is one that is so much more beautiful.
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OLDER THAN DIRT WISDOM
Only our Creator knows when we will die. We will not die a day sooner or a day later, so leave the dying to the Creator , to our God and focus on living.
I get asked all the time am I worried about dying and my answer is no. I am too busy living and enjoying my loved ones and enjoying life. I will die when I am supposed to and no sooner.
Making decisions requires five things. It requires you to listen to God, to your head, to your heart, to your head again and finally listening to God again. Our hearts are wonderful things but sometimes they make us make decisions based on guilt, pity or some other emotion and then we find that we are miserable.
How we are made
I love this expression for it is so true. We were created with TWO ears and ONE mouth. I believe the intent was for us to listen twice as much as we talk. And because we only have one mouth, make what goes in and comes out be extremely gentle and easily digested.
Standing up for what is right
It is so easy to be passive and ignore the tragedies and wrong doings going on daily. We can not change the world but we can change what is in our corner of the world, one piece at a time….starting with ourselves. It is amazing how good it feels to stand up for what is right instead of going along with the crowd.
Distance makes for clarity
Sometimes we can be so close to something we can not see the reality. Stepping away for a while gives us that 20/20 vision we need to make smart decisions
Friends are a wonderful thing. Keep in mind 345 “friends” on Facebook does not make them friends. They are acquaintances. If you come through life with only ONE close friend, you have come through life with something very precious that will last you your whole life. And if you think that everyone on your Facebook is your friend, they are not. Watch people move from group to group once they are seen as they are. Real friends do not do that. They do not take advantage of your good heart or your generosity. They value you and they stay your friend. They may not always agree with you but they are honest enough to tell you the truth.
Never let a day go by without telling those you love that you love them. Actions speak louder than words, but they still love to hear the words too.
Never let the sun set on your anger. Each day that you allow anger to continue, it becomes easier to stay angry and never heal the gap. “Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame.”~~Benjamin Franklin
Someone has to be the first to say I am sorry. Being sorry that there is a dispute does not mean that you are wrong. It means you are sorry that the difference in opinions or actions caused a riff.
When you find yourself angry, first ask yourself why. We are complex humans and sometimes we are angry because we are hurt, or tired or frustrated. We all get angry at times. But, remaining angry is our own choice.
We are not indispensable
In life here on earth, everyone can be replaced. No one is indispensable. Someone can always do the job we were doing. Never think you must stay where you are because something might fall apart without you. It won’t. Life will go on.
Communicating with Others
We all speak from our own “place” and we all use different words with our own definition. What means one thing to someone might mean something entirely different to another. Always ask “what do you mean by….?” for it saves many arguments. And don’t react until you are sure you know what the other person is Really saying.
It is OK to Say NO
It really is ok to say No, I can’t. …No, I don’t want to….and not get caught up in things we really do not want to do. I remember too many times agreeing to do something and then wanting to kick myself afterwards. Those that love you will still love you if you say no. They might get mad for a little bit, but they will get over it. Don’t say yes out of guilt. You will hate yourself afterwards. And the more you learn to say no, the more you will find you have time to do the things you really love, with those you love.
Take Life in Bites
I read once that the first bite of food, no matter the item, is the best taste. Each bite after dims in great flavor as your taste buds get used to is. I love going to buffet’s and I take one small spoonful of each thing and sit and savor the flavors. My plate looks like a sampler. So sample life one bite at a time. Too much of something dulls the excitement and flavor. Remember the days of youth. How exciting things were. Rekindle that as a child. We don’t have to have everything but we can feel like we do by enjoying what we have.
Laughter is a great healer and helps you to get rid of stress. I have laughed til I cried even in the midst of really hard times. We do not have to be all serious or sad or down and never laugh again just because something bad happened. Laughter often serves to break a tense moment, and to keep us from getting angry over something that really is not worth getting angry over. It helps to relieve tension in one of the most beautiful ways. Laughter is a choice. Laugh a lot and enjoy life. And most of all, learn to laugh at yourself. I do it all the time.
Never Defend Something Blindly
Believe and have faith in what you believe in but always make sure you are defending it with facts and not just emotion. When you defend something, ask yourself “why?” and the reasons should be more than “it’s wonderful” or “it’s great”. You should be able to tell valid reasons. Otherwise we become like the groupies who follow this or that star all over the globe but can’t really give you a good reason why. When you have your reasons…good valid reasons…defending your position becomes much easier.
Don’t Depend on Others for Happiness or Validation
Our happiness should never hinge on “things” or “people” for those things can disappear. It comes from inside us. Neither should we let someone be the only thing that validates us or tells us we are worthy. For they are only human. Learn to validate yourself. You know when you have done a good job or when you have done something worthy. Be proud of that and validate from within that what you did is good.
Treat Each Day Like It Is Your Last
Every day is a gift. Treat each day like it is your last and see the wonder and awe in each one. Live your life as if today is your last, making sure to mend all fences that have been broken, making sure to say I love you often, making sure to always do your part.
Refine your Moral Compass
We usually know when we are doing something we should not be doing. If we are feeling uncomfortable, unhappy, angry, etc with what we are doing….it is time to step away from it and figure out why. Sometimes, people know they are doing wrong and just do not care. That is why it is so important that we refine our moral compass to be that of knowing right from wrong.
Value The Important Things, Know What Can Be Lost and What Destroys
These 3 things once gone you can never get back: Time, words and opportunity
These 3 things in life can destroy a person: anger, pride and unforgiveness.
These 3 things in life are the most important: Love, family/friends and kindness
whatever value you place on yourself…others will too. We teach others how to treat us. If we do not treat ourselves with respect, no one else with either. If we do not stand up for ourselves, no one else will either. And if we do not love ourselves, how can we expect others to?
Life and what we do is a choice. No one forces us. There is always a choice. It may not be what we want but it is still a choice. But, when we make excuses instead of choices….then we are just opening doors to failure. Choose even if you make a mistake.
Remember that life is not a dress rehearsal. This is the real thing and there are no retakes. Before saying or doing something destructive…stop and ask yourself if it is worth it. For every word and every action there is a consequence.
“Write the bad things that are done to you in sand,
But, Write the good things that happen to you on a piece of marble.”
Write in sand so that it will soon blow or wash away. And Write the good thing in marble so that you will remember them forever.
Hope is something we all need to survive. Without hope, life becomes desolate. Hope comes in many forms. “Hope you have a good day” to “Hope that this or that happens” that we dream of. And hope is what makes us try again and again.
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As long as we have breath, there is hope. As long as we are alive, there is always hope. We may get so down at times that we do not see it, but it is hope that will lift us up and make us go again. Sometimes it is people who give us that feeling of hope. Other times it is an event and sometimes it is just what we feel in our hearts that this can not be the end of our dream or desire.
I think we all have hopes and dreams. For me personally, I believe hopes and dreams have to do with honesty and ethics. This does not mean that good things do not come to bad people for they do. People lie, manipulate and steal to get what they want but in the end….they will be held accountable. And even sadder is that they will be the very ones saying “oh, those people are horrible” about people who lie, steal and manipulate….no moral compass. But, I believe that when we do things honestly and ethically, our dreams do see fruition. And not only that, we have a clean conscience. We do not have to look over our shoulders the rest of our lives wondering if someone is going to catch us.
Opening our hearts to dreaming, believing in hope and believing our dreams will come true makes our lives so much brighter. It opens our lives for many wonderful things and the biggest ones are joy and peace of mind. As long as we have breath…..we have hope.
One of the hardest things to do when dreaming is to have patience. I think this is why many people choose to take shortcuts and cheat the system. Sometimes dreams take time. Look at son and I. We started in 2004 and are here now and I can tell you that the wait was worth the dream. Sometimes, I think it is the Lord waiting on us to change and grow and learn how to love and live life.
Sometimes I grew weary on this journey and sometimes I felt ready to give up. But that little thing called hope lurks in my heart and will not let me. I knew that as long as I was breathing…that was hope I would get here and I feel that way about my dreams I have now. I believe that I will get to paint my fence in the back yard with the nature scene like I want. Yes, I will have to lay on the padded platform that son is making me so that I can do it. But I have hope that I will see it finished before I leave here.
It always makes me sad to hear people say “I have no hope” for as long as we are breathing, there is hope. It is only when we leave this world that the hope of what we want to do here ends. This is where Faith comes in. Faith and Hope go hand in hand. Without faith, we can do nothing either. If we did not have faith that we could walk, we would not attempt it. If we did not have faith that we could raise children, we would never have them. We hope for things and then we have faith that they will happen. But it comes in steps.
This is where my beliefs lie. If you have Faith, Hope and Charity, life will move forward with much joy. Hope for what we want…..Faith that it will be there….and Charity for others…what we give out comes back then fold. I believe and have seen that. Be it good or bad, honest or dishonest, moral or immoral, legal or illegal.
Take stock of today and keep your eyes going forward to the future. The past is something we can neither change nor go back to. We can make amends for the things from the past and try to do what is right for the present and Hope for the future.
This is why I believe in living like this is my last day on earth. I try to make sure that I have taken care of things so that I have as few regrets as possible. When you think about not being here anymore, it makes each breath, each word, each action, each thought…that much more important. And it makes each person that much more important. And it makes the desire of all that money can buy less and less important.
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