No Refunds on Time
Time, like grains of sand filtering through your fingers, is one of the most elusive things in our lives. Although all of us are conscious of time, it tends to rear its head more in the form of “I have to be there at 5 o’clock” or “this takes an hour to do” and not with the idea that time has gone by. It passes in the twinkling of an eye.
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It seems like only a short while ago, I was a child and living at home. Now, here I am a grandmother. The time whisked by in the twinkling of an eye. First I was a child, then I had children and now my children have children. Where did the time go? It went in the twinkling of an eye.
As I look at my granddaughter, I am very aware of time. She is already so grown. In just a few short years, she will be out of high school. After my health changed, I was afraid I would never live to see grandchildren and now she is a teen. I can still see my boys when they were toddlers and now they are grown young men and I am so proud of them. Where has the time gone? It went in the twinkling of an eye.
When we are young, we think we have all the time in the world. Unfortunately, we do not know how much time we have. No one is guaranteed tomorrow. So, I wonder do we make the best use of our time. I have known friends who spent all their time fussing and arguing and in chaos and I want to tell them they are wasting precious moments that they can never regain. Time flies by in the twinkling of an eye.
When my health went down, I had to learn to not let things bother me so. Now, I will not say I succeed all the time but I do pretty well at this. Like that serenity prayer…I had to learn to accept that there are things I can not change. Sometimes we can keep beating our heads against the brick wall because we are determined to fix, control, manage, whatever and we lose precious minutes. Acceptance is the key. I accept what my health is. That is why I do not keep running around hunting the miracle cure. I work towards living as healthy as I can and more importantly living my life in such a way that I spend more time on happiness and joy than I do on what is wrong with me. It is a choice.
The Serenity Prayer
GOD, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the
things I can, and the
wisdom to know the difference.
I have learned not to waste my time, emotions and health on things that will not matter months from now. Life is flying by and when I look up it is gone in a the twinkling of an eye. So many minutes are wasted by people on petty or inconsequential things. I want to make and have memories with my children and my grand baby that they can hold on to when I am gone. I do not want them remembering only that I was chronically ill and disabled but that I was loving, funny, strong, loyal, determined and most of all that I loved them more than anything.
Time has flown by since my granddaughter was born and she is turning into a beautiful young woman. I want her and my sons to know how much I love them…how much they mean to me. I want my family and family of choice to know how much they mean to me now while they can feel it. I do not want to stand at their graves and wish I had told them, nor do I want them to stand at mine…and wish we had spent the time and love on each other. I do not want to waste precious time on silly arguments or fussing for we each only have so many days and none of us knows the hour we will leave here.
If You’re Ever Going to Love Me
If you’re ever going to love me
love me now, while I can know
All the sweet and tender feeling
which from real affection flow.
Love me now, while I am living;
do not wait till I am gone
And then chisel it in marble–
warm love words on ice-cold stone.
If you’ve dear, sweet thought of me,
why not whisper them to me?
Don’t you know ‘twould make me happy
and as glad as glad could be?
If you wait till I am sleeping,
ne’er to waken here again,
There’ll be walls of earth between us
and I couldn’t hear you then.
If you knew someone was thirsting
for a drop of water sweet
Would you be slow to bring it?
Would you step with laggard feet?
There are tender hearts all round us
who are thirsting for our love;
Why withhold from them what nature
makes them crave all else above?
I won’t need your kind caresses
when the grass grows o’er my face;
I won’t crave your love or kisses
in my last low resting place.
So, then, if you love me any,
if it’s but a little bit,
Let me know it now while living;
I can own and treasure it.
(Author Unknown, though many have claimed authorship)
Or as I tell those I love dearly every time I talk to them……..I love you Forever and a day…and then some.
There are no refunds on time. It is like sand trickling through the hourglass only we can not turn the hourglass over. So, please I say….love me now while I am here for one day I will be gone and it will be too late.
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