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danLrene Thoughts on Valentine’s Day

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It is amazing to me how media and commercialism can turn a day into something it did not start out as. Valentine’s Day called St. Valentine’s Day was about certain saints and about spring in different regions. It only became mentioned as about romantic love in the 13th century and from there it has spawned into one of the most lucrative holidays we have.

From Wikipedia:

Chaucer’s love birds

“Jack B. Oruch writes that the first recorded association of Valentine’s Day with romantic love is in Parlement of Foules (1382) by Geoffrey Chaucer.[21] Chaucer wrote:

For this was on seynt Volantynys day
Whan euery bryd comyth there to chese his make.

[“For this was on St. Valentine’s Day, when every bird cometh there to choose his mate.”]

This poem was written to honor the first anniversary of the engagement of King Richard II of England to Anne of Bohemia.[41] A treaty providing for a marriage was signed on May 2, 1381.[42] (When they were married eight months later, they were each only 15 years old).”

Then came the money-making ventures. “Paper Valentines became so popular in England in the early 19th century that they were assembled in factories. Fancy Valentines were made with real lace and ribbons, with paper lace introduced in the mid-19th century.”  And of course the United States began making mass-produced cards in 1847. And from there the rest is history…chocolates, flowers, cards, lingerie, balloons , anything that will make a profit are hawked on the papers, media etc.

Starting from elementary children up, people are made to feel as if they are not worthy unless they receive cards, flowers, balloons, etc. Children in elementary school make Valentine bags or boxes for all their cards and they watch to see if everyone gives them a card. Some teachers are intuitive and require a child to bring a card for each child but many do not.  And so, some children are left out. Schools often become flooded with florists visits as they drop off for children for this day. Adults yearn for their “special one” to give them gifts and many base their idea of “love” on Valentine’s Day romanticism. This fairy tale image of what love should be is perpetuated in the media and movies and then people get in relationships and marry and wonder why it is not like this all the time. I see those that do not get the valentine stuff being hurt and I see those that are getting it and buying into the hype that goes with it that love is perfect and always beautiful and sunny when it is not being hurt too. Love is a working relationship where yes, you will be disappointed, yes, you will disagree, yes, you will forget important dates, yes, you will be so happy and feel the love but there may be days when it is not all fairy tale like Valentine’s day. That is reality. So, I see those who buy into the hype that stores promote and media being hurt too by creating an illusion that is not real.

This is danLrene’s philosophy about Valentine’s Day. I think it is a lot like “random acts of kindness”.  Why should kindness be random? Why should Valentine’s day be about ONE day that is all about love?  And why should it only be about one kind of love?  Why not be kind every day and do acts of kindness all the time?  Why not show your love, whether it is romantic or friends or family love, ALL the time instead of building it up into hype that hurts many people? I do not do commercial anything anymore. Our Christmases are more beautiful because we focus on family and being together and doing things together and not on the gifts in the store and it is the same with all holidays. I have had my flowers and candy and you know what…the flowers die and the candy gets eaten and I would rather have that love all year-long than one day and then it is over.

Some will say “oh danLrene is just mad she has no Valentine gifts this year” and you know what…I do have Special Valentines and gifts. In fact, I have many valentines..I have family valentines like my sons and my sweetpea, mama, and some very dear friends who make sure this day is special by just making sure I am included in their day like they do every day of the year. And their gifts to me are LOVE, TIME and CARING. My older than dirt wisdom has shown me that the most important thing in life is those around me that I love and not a fairy tale perpetuated by stores wanting our money and by media hype……when what I value most is LOVE and time spent with those I love  And so today…I wish you a very Happy Valentine’s Day and pray that your day is filled with the love of those around you.


February 14, 2014 - Posted by | All | , , , , , , , ,

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