Own Your Actions And Your Words
One of the things that I taught my sons as they were growing up was to own their actions….. whether right or wrong. I taught them that if what they did was not right or turned out to be bad even with good intentions, to own it and to not try to blame other people for their actions. It shows our character by how we do this. We can either stand up and say “I am sorry. What I did was not the right way to handle this or that” or we can try to turn it on the other person and begin attacking them and blaming them.
Honesty is a huge thing with me as you all know and if we do not own our own actions and blame others because they disagree with us, then we are not being honest with ourselves or with everyone around us. And what people can fail to see is that while they are trying to blame others for inappropriate behavior, everyone around them sees what they are doing. Some people love to do this via the internet thinking that gives them more credibility. It will give credibility if you are owning your actions and your words but if you are via the social media trying to place blame on someone else, it shows your character to the world.
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When someone shows you that they are not all the nice and sweetness they try to portray and act in a way that says they have a manipulative or ugly side..believe them. And when someone shows you that they are honest and good…believe them. No matter what it is..a person will eventually show you their true side. Usually the ones that are pretending to be this sweet and loving soul but have the ugly darker side will eventually slip up and you will find them doing ugly things.. They are showing you who they are.
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I have found through the years that there are those who will set out to get you if you dare to criticize or disagree with them. I know you all know that kind of high school behavior. They have even made movies on it but it is not just high school people who will do that. Just take a look around social media. We will never have people agree with all we do and that is normal but many will only have around them ONLY those people who agree and go along with what they do and say. And sadly, there are people who will agree just to be part of the group. Just like in high school, you will have people who will follow people, will not stand up for what is right, will not tell someone who they are friends with that what they did was not right but will go along with the person who is leading the pack. And that person will never admit that they were wrong and will continue to make the same mistakes over and over and over all their lives.
I also taught my sons to stand up for what is right even if you stand alone. Own your behavior. If you have researched and know that you are right then stand up for it. If there is injustice, stand up for what is right. If someone is being hurt or mistreated, stand up for them. And, if you are wrong, stand up and admit it. Do not blame someone else. It is so important to own our words, our actions and our intentions if we are going to be people of integrity and honesty and good morals. But, I am sure that you all know too that there are people who do not do this. We have seen it from the highest office down to just people we know personally. They will never admit that they may have made a mistake. Instead, they will try to promote hatred and anger towards whomever disagrees with them or if they apologize it is what I call a “false” apology. We all know them. They use words to divert the apology onto the person that was offended or hurt. They will say things like ”I am sorry but…”. There are no “buts” when you hurt others, even if it was unintentional.
There are a few key phrases people use when trying to divert attention from their doing wrong. One is that if a person dared to disagree with them, then that person must be such a “lonely, sad person” or some phrase along those lines, or will talk about how the person that dared to say something must be of a certain mentality. They will hint at inappropriateness in those who do not agree with them but will never admit that anything they did is inappropriate. They will not own their own behavior or words. Most of us recognize people like this instantly but some will be so blinded by the person who acted inappropriately or will be a person that stands up for nothing and will just be a sheeple and go along with the wrong deed. We have minds and we are smart enough to have opinions even if they differ from what someone else does. And we should have courage enough to stand up for what is right.
Many people will not want to get involved, will not stand up for anyone because they do not want to make waves, will allow ugliness to go on instead of saying “You know, that was not the thing to say or do. I love you friend but it was wrong” and that shows the kind of character they have. There comes a time when you need to stand up for injustice, stand up for what is right and make a stand because if you stand for nothing, then no one will stand for you. Own your actions and own your words because they will follow you all your life. Standing up for what is right is not creating drama. It is standing up for the truth and for justice.
And the last line that should be on the quote above is: Or you will fall for anything
I have learned from my older than dirt wisdom that saying “I was wrong” or “I am sorry” does not mean you are a bad person, it means you realize that you are not perfect and will make mistakes. People will eventually see your mistakes because we do not live on an island by ourselves. I learned how to apologize a long time ago when I have said or done something that was not right. And many times I have eaten my words and said “I am so sorry. I did not mean it how it sounded but it was still wrong”. And that friends, gives you a life of peace and joy because you know you have owned your words and actions and you have taken responsibility for them and righted any wrongs. I am proud of my sons and I have tried to emulate standing up to injustice or wrongs in life for them.. They have the courage to stand up and make a difference in their corner of the world. It all comes down to choice. We can choose to own our actions and our words or we can choose to make excuses, blame others and denigrate others to cover up our own bad behavior…the choice is ours to make.
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