Malignancy Of The Heart
When we think of malignancy, we think of cancer. But, there is another kind of malignancy that goes on especially in the internet world. It is called the Malignant Heart. I do believe that it is a horrible disease and affects many we come into contact with on the internet and real- life. The internet seems to bring about out the malignant heart in others and they follow almost with mob mentality, the malignant hearts near them. There is power in numbers, so in a group, people feel even more forceful. The term malignant means deadly, life threatening, terminal, etc and if one has a malignancy then one is in fear of dying. I believe that when your heart is malignant and you do not do anything to change that, it will eventually kill you and what a horrible way to die.
The malignant heart does not care who it hurts and causes such things as vindictiveness, hatred, bullying, and other demeaning actions. I have written on bullying before and yet I think the malignant heart is not just a person who bullies but is someone who thinks they can say or do whatever they want and do not have to answer to anyone. I have been hurt this way as have friends of mine.
The term malignant heart is not my expression. I have seen the term used when talking about criminals and actions by companies on the internet. It is not a physical condition I am referring to but one “of the heart” or emotions. I find that being on the computer gives people a feeling of a sense of power and being anonymous gives them even more power to be hateful. One of the first signs that their heart is malignant.
I know people who literally hide their ID on the internet because they have been attacked by someone with a malignant heart and attacked viciously. I have seen this with women in their fifties, sixties and seventies with these malignant hearts. And I see it in the younger people now who just attack others “in the name of defending someone” but are just as hateful and name calling. I am not sure what causes this but there could be several reasons: loneliness, bitterness, disappointment in their lives, being at home with young children and bored or perhaps their heart has always been malignant. Who knows. All I know is that these two groups of the population have some of the worst perpetrators. Now, not everyone in these groups are like this but a large enough number to make one cautious about who you talk to.
Please do not misunderstand me. I have seen many with a malignant heart in real- life and even in churches. And I have seen men with malignant hearts, though I will have to say those men tend to have a heart that is malignant when it comes to women…using and discarding them and hurting them badly and moving on to the next conquest. But, it seems that women are gaining in that area doing the same to men.
Sometimes I wish we could see inside of the heads of people like this. I heard someone once say that a therapist could become rich off of the abnormal behavior just seen on the internet. Sadly, those with the malignant heart do not think anything is wrong with their behavior.
And their behavior is so predictable. They will cause problems in a group and then play all innocent and use expressions like “I was just trying to understand” or “I was just asking, not trying to cause problems” after they have succeeded in disrupting a whole group. And then when the person running the group makes a general statement to make them stop and says something like “please if you can not be nice, do not say anything” and the malignant heart will jump in and start making comments like “you tell them!” or “great post. thank you!” when it is actually them the moderator of the group is talking to.
Reminds me of being in church and the preacher is really wound up on gossiping or some other ugly action, and when the very ones the preacher was hoping to reach are leaving they church and shake the preacher’s hand…they tell him “Boy, you told them preacher”. And they really believe it is everyone else but them the preacher is talking to.
I came across a site one day that was listing who they thought were the ten most evil people in history. And someone commented on the post and said basically…what about those, who in their lonely lives, go on the internet looking for people to take their anger out on and rip to pieces the soul of someone else. I thought that was a very interesting statement. When malignant hearts set out to destroy another verbally….they are ripping to shreds the very heart of the person they are attacking.
Yes, there is a lot of deceit and taking advantage of on the internet. First time it happens is shame on the person doing it. Second and third time..etc…is shame on the person who allows it. Believe me when I say, it is not being taken advantage of if you allow the person to do it. While there is so much on the internet that shows people with malignant hearts, we have to learn to protect our own for no one else will do it for us.
Evil lurks in the heart of man, and anonymity tends to bring it out. Internet flamers would never say the jagged things they do if they had to sign their names.
GARRISON KEILLOR, “Renouncing Evil Powers and Anonymity,”
A Prairie Home Companion, Jan. 12, 2010
How we act in life, on the internet or anywhere else….is a choice. No one forces us to be mean to others or to try to control them. So, if it is a choice…..why do people keep on being mean? A malignant heart of the emotional kind is curable. Perhaps a person must recognize first that their heart is malignant before they can over come it. No matter the reason, we must take care of our corner of the world and make sure to act in a way that we want to be treated. We must be authentic with our actions and words for then we will be setting the standard. And we must strive to make sure our hearts are not filled with bitterness, anger, hate, malice for that will destroy us in the end.
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