Are You Nurturing and Feeding The Right Things?
A Cherokee Legend
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
I love this story because it is true. We all contain within us the negative and the positive, the love and the hate…all the emotions that are opposites to each other and which ever one we feed is the one that wins and leads our lives.
Sometimes people feed and see only the negative. Nothing good every comes out of their mouths. Complaints are as common as breathing about everything in life because they are feeding that negative side. We have all been around people like this and perhaps at times have allowed this side to win ourselves. It is where someone feels bad or things go badly and no matter what good things happen after that, the person no longer sees it because they just keep feeding that negative, complaining side instead of that positive side that sees good even in the bad. We have to be willing to be part of the change for good in our lives.
And the difference in people who do the negative and those that see the positive is like night and day. People find it hard to be around those that can never see anything positive. It gets to me after a while listening to someone complain over and over and over and never and I mean never has anything good to say. I have learned from years of experience that if I give into my pain and allow it to consume me…my pain increases. If I look for positive ways to pull me away from my pain….the distraction makes me forget some of my pain for a little while. If I feel down, I find that doing something for someone else lifts me up and them.
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Sometimes we can even feed the good too much. Remember the quote “give a man a fish and he eats for a day. Teach him to fish and he will eat for a lifetime”? Well, sometimes we can jump in and help others too much and they become dependent on it and expect us to do it instead of stepping up and taking the reins and trying to do some for themselves. I remember reading a quote that said “sometimes the best help you can give a person is no help because then they are forced to do for themselves”. I believe that is what that quote is talking about. I think helping someone is important and as long as they are trying to help themselves too, then we continue helping. But when a person starts expecting help but does not want to be part of the solution, we are hindering them more than we are helping them. We are encouraging them to be victims and that is never a good thing.
So, which wolf do you feed? What are you nurturing in your life? Do you see everything as going wrong, or do you see the things that go wrong as a way to do something differently. Are you feeding the right wolf or are you feeding the wolf that only sees the bad and is focused on “anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego”?. The other side is focused on “joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith” and no it is not being a Pollyanna. It is making a choice to be happy in life and to share that happiness with the world around us. It is a daily battle within humans and what we do in that battle determines how we see life. Do we see it as everything going wrong or do we see the right that is happening in a wrong situations? I hope you see the good.
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