Are You Running Against The Wind?
There was a time, when I felt like life was under our control. And then one day on one of those days where I felt like I was trying to move the mountain, I started feeling like I was running against the wind. It was that day that I realized that there really is very little we are controlling in our lives. We just think we are. In reality, the only thing we can really control is how we react to what happens to us.
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It is then that I realize that when you have to beat your head against a brick wall, constantly fight to do what you want and feel like you are constantly running against the wind, that perhaps you are trying to change the flow of your life in a way that was not meant to be.
I believe that the Creator watches us sometimes and must smile, just like we do as parents when we watch our children try to put one of those little wooden star, circle, square and rectangle dowel shaped things in the hole and when it does not fit, we will see our child pick up the hammer and try to beat it in to fit. It is those days we feel like we are fighting a constant battle.
Now, do not misunderstand me. I think the good things in life are worth working for, but I think when we come to the point that we are beating our heads against the wall ALL the time to get to where we want or to get something we want, than we are trying to force the glass slipper on like the ugly stepsister did in Cinderella. We are trying to force that which does not fit. I have learned that sometimes what we wish for is just not meant to be. That is not to say do not try. The wisdom I learned was that if we have to force something even if we manage to “get the glass slipper on”, it will pinch and hurt and not feel right afterwards.
So, how do we know when we are trying to force that which does not fit? I love this quote below for it gives the first hint of what I have learned. How do we know? The answer is by how long we keep beating our heads against the wall.
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If we find ourselves month after month after month pushing and battling to get what we want, if we find ourselves never making any headway, then perhaps it is time to stop and feel the wind. It is time to feel the current again and see if it was trying to lead us into a direction that is even better. All good things take sacrifice but we have to learn the difference in sacrifice and beating ourselves in the head for something that is not meant to be. And that is a hard lesson for several reasons. One is learning how to know when we are trying to make something happen or make someone love us that is not meant to be. The other part is that we are “self” people by nature and some of us have the “I Want” gene a lot stronger than others and do not know that not all we want is good for us.
I learned this with working our dreams. It took us two years to sell our house and I will have to admit that I was getting to the point at the end that I wondered was I trying to force something that was not meant to happen. As long as I felt happy and excited and it felt right with this decision to sell, then I knew that we were headed in the right direction. But there were a few times at the end that I felt that despair and defeat. It was then, I asked the Creator to please show me and to please tell me was it time to let it go or were we supposed to do this move. And every time I asked, that very day it never failed we would get a call and someone wanted to see the house. That one little sign told me to give it a little more time. And we sold our house and here we are.
“You are not the momentary whim of a careless creator experimenting in the laboratory of life…You were made with a purpose.”
Og Mandino in “The Greatest Miracle in the World”
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