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Innocent Until Proven Guilty

Innocent Until Proven Guilty

Innocent until proven guilty….this has been our country’s mantra every since I can remember that is until lately. In the past few years it has become guilty by mainstream media or by social media. They post things they have no proof on hoping that the gullible will believe it. When they post things like “an anonymous source”, “Appears to be”, “Probably”, etc, then they really do not have the proof or know for a fact.

And the sad thing to me is that our young people have not been taught that people are innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. The number of different accusations I see on people in general on social media is astounding. I would hate to be accused of something and have to go to a jury trial because I do not believe many people should be put on a jury for they convict based on emotion and not facts.

People have been put in prison because the media printed articles that were not true. So many of the mainstream media have sold their souls to the devil because they would rather lie just to get rid of the person they do not like. I find that reprehensible. What has happened to truth and honesty and looking for real facts not what someone on the internet or in a news cast tells you what they believe is the truth.

I have seen families torn apart because social media judged them publicly when they were innocent and families split, spouses left and lives were destroyed. And even when the truth came out, the damage could not be mended.

I ask you all to pretend you are on a jury when you read all the garbage on the mainstream media and on social media and ask yourselves as you read “Do I see facts in here?”   “Have they submitted evidence?” and try to decide for yourself if what you are being fed by the mainstream media or even by all the people on social media is the truth. Remember that one day this could be YOU on that side where you are being tried, convicted and sentenced for something you did not so and would you not want “Innocent until proven guilty” to prevail?

(PS…sorry for the absence. A lot of medical going on and seeing specialists because my primary asked me to in order to see if anything could help this extreme pain. And the answers were the same:  no surgery because I could not make it through it and extreme damage. So, I have had to rest a lot because on top of it all I had a disc rupture. Thanks for caring and I am still fighting upward. 🙂

May 19, 2017 Posted by | Personal opinions | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Are Hate And Vengeance The New Norm?

Are Hate And Vengeance The New Norm?

I have written on hate before but today when I read through all the news headlines, it struck me that both HATE and VENGEANCE have become the new norm. Not only is hate becoming more normal so is going after people, trying to destroy them and close any business they have. Automatically turning to hate, vengeance and vigilante justice is becoming the norm and increasing over the past few years.

I just want to point out some things that people need to think of before they try to destroy someone just because you do not like what they said or did. Right now there is a “fire Colbert campaign” going on because he made a homophobic Trump insult.  I do not agree with that kind of talk but seriously people have gotten ridiculous using social media to ruin people. I am totally against what he said but to try to stop him from having a job because of what he said is called censorship. Remember that thing called freedom of speech? I agree with making complaints against it to the station and asking for something to be done but I do not agree with trying to destroy a person because they do not agree with you. What he said was insulting, ugly, hurtful and should not have been said but it was not illegal.

People try to close businesses because they did not do what they wanted never once thinking about all the employees that need that job to support themselves and their families. It is vigilante justice without thinking of consequences and I have to wonder what age people are promoting these campaigns. See, it is teens and tweens that do not have the skills to see the consequences of their actions and many of them get on the bandwagon on these things because it feels powerful to them. Whether people like it or not, we do still have freedom of speech but it comes with consequences for everyone including those propagating all the hate and vengeance.

Hate and revenge are rampant. You want to affect Colbert, stop watching his show. The less people who watch makes an impact on the show and the station. I have seen such behavior as this in the past few years on smaller scales and now on huge scales. Oh yes, let’s destroy Ivanka Trump’s clothing industry because you hate Trump. What about the people who depend on that income to live? Or, destroy Chick-fil-A because they do not agree with LGBT beliefs. Lets go to smaller incidences like the children bullied because they were different or did not agree with what you believe and were bullied to the point they committed suicide. Where does it stop? What will you do when someone decides they hate YOU and want to destroy you? With the way things are going it can happen at any time.

I believe in standing up for what is right but I also believe in doing it the right way. If you are against a company for legitimate reasons, stop buying from them. If you are against a restaurant, stop eating there. Just use common sense and do not let your hate and vengeance be something that destroys a lot of innocent people. As I watch all the name calling, hate, attempts to destroy others, etc on social media and in the news, I just feel sick in the pit of my stomach. I can not nor will I live my life hating. If I am against something going on in the government, I will make it known, write letters, sign petitions etc but I will not try to destroy everyone.

If I do not like certain famous people or their shows, I will stop watching them for watching them is supporting them. If I do not like certain vloggers like the couple who just had two children removed because of their treatment of their children on the vlogs, I will report it and I will never watch it. But, I will never try to destroy someone and destroy innocent people in the process. Hate only creates more hate and mob mentality destroys people.

And that is simply danLrene’s personal opinion.

May 4, 2017 Posted by | Personal opinions | , , , , , | 2 Comments

On Boundaries

Boundaries

Boundaries are important to make your life more peaceful. Some people do not know how to set boundaries and others do not know how to use boundaries. The difference in that those two things is that some people have not set any boundaries so people intrude on their lives all the time. And other people just do not follow boundaries and are constantly intruding on the lives of others.

I had to learn how to set boundaries and learn how to say no. It is alright to say no when someone wants you to do something. Yes, they might get mad for a bit but they will get over it and if they do not get over it, they were not a friend to begin with but rather someone used to using others. Have you ever agreed to do something say like be in charge of an event that you really had no interest in and really did not have the time to do and then came home mad at yourself for saying yes?  And then you felt resentful about having to do it? That is a sign we need boundaries and need to stick to them.

Decide what is right for you not to please everyone else but to please yourself. If you do not want to go somewhere, go on a girl or guy’s night out, babysit for someone, take over someone’s shift, lend money, etc, then learn how to say no. Do not make excuses cause you will get trapped in them. Just say no. Yes, some will try to guilt you but trust me when I say it is far better to come home after saying no than it is to come home and be angry with yourself and resent what you are going to be doing.

And this little part here is for those that think they “have the right” as so many put it to say or do what they want. Yes, that is true but when you step on our rights to not be bothered, you are crossing a line. Some people need to learn respect for others and sometimes we have to be the one to teach them. So, please…set boundaries and stick to them so that the ones with no boundaries do not run over you.

May 3, 2017 Posted by | Personal opinions | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Family and Friends Versus Political Views

Family and Friends vs Political Views

This topic was prompted by what I have read on social media. My first reaction is to say “What the H is wrong with people.”  but I realize that will not get the message out there. So, if you are so filled with hate over this election that you can not think clearly, have trouble sleeping from it, and all you want to do is call anyone on the other side names, this is not the article for you. Or maybe it is.

I have seen people on social media saying they have removed their family and friends from their social media and their phones and will never speak to them again. Pretty drastic to do that. The day a person’s political views are more important than their family and friends is a sad day indeed. Politics will change as it always does. But your family and loved ones are always here.

I think the irony of these statements by people is that they are striking at the very core of what our country is based on: Freedom of speech and freedom to choose. These people are the very ones that scream “I have freedom of speech!” if someone tells them to hush but they are doing that to their family and loved ones and to anyone around them. And yet they do not see the irony of what they are doing.

I remember days where politics were discussed and people did not have to agree with what one side said or the other. People could discuss without going into rages and attacking people. People could disagree and would even say “we will just have to disagree on that” and go on. The past few years all that has changed and people are being attacked, name called, etc for their views on politics and even on religion. And some people are trying to silence those who do not agree with them. Is that not violating my freedom of speech if I disagree with you and you try to silence me? And the answer is YES it does. Also some people have been taught if they scream the loudest they can drown you out. It feels like high school all over again.

Now back to the family and friends being banned by people. I have to wonder if that is what these people really want is to lose their family and friends unless they agree with them? It would seem that way. I only can say this….be careful who you put out of your life for they may never allow you to come back into theirs again once you get what you want and get those in power you want. They may say enough. I find it shameful that politics are more important than family or even dear friends. Our values have been corrupted.

May 2, 2017 Posted by | Personal opinions | , , , , | 2 Comments

Pain

PAIN

Today is a topic that I know a lot about….Pain.  I would say many know what pain is but many also do not understand that pain is relative to the person and what is causing the pain. Some people have no pain tolerance and what may seem minimal to one person can be horrific to another. I love my pain specialist for he understands pain totally. He sees them as blocks stacked up on top of each other and while he can not make me pain free..not even close to pain free…he can ease some of my pain by removing one or two of the “blocks” of pain such as when he does the Radio Frequency Ablation on my spine to try to ease some of the horrific nerve pain.

I think people have to be very careful with their words because words have a lasting impact. I hear people say things like “My disease pain is worse than cancer pain.”  It might or it might not be. See, all cancer does not cause pain. I had vaginal carcinoma and it was not painful but it could have been deadly. But, cancer can produce some of the worst pain possible and if you do not believe it do some research. Some people are dying from cancer in such extreme pain that in my book it is torture. So, for a person with a disease to say my pain is much worse than cancer pain but are up walking around, going out, etc is ridiculous. When a person who can walk, who can go out into the world, can take care of their basic needs feels the need to minimize something as horrific as end stage cancer pain, something is wrong. We do not have to tear down another person’s pain to try to validate our own.

Many have this false idea that if they go to a pain doctor that the doctor should be able to remove all pain. I have a pain management specialist and the most he can do is get mine down at times but never makes me pain free. I live with what I have to live with and sometimes that means laying in my hospital bed all day not moving because even moving throws the pain over the top. My pain is never below a 5 which is considered disruptive pain and this past year hoovers around an 8. I also accept that I will never be pain free. I would not know how to act if I was.

Please remember when you look at someone with pain that you do not know the whole story. And please do not denigrate one group of people with pain just to try to validate your own. It makes you look bad. If anything, pain should make us more compassionate towards those suffering with pain not more critical to where we feel like we have to prove how bad our pain is all the time to everyone.

The reality is, those that do those kind of things to try to prove their pain is worse than anyone else only make others look at them with skepticism for  many have lost loved ones to cancer who died in horrific pain. So, when someone says “my pain is worse than cancer pain” but they are still able to care for themselves, feed themselves, dress themselves, etc, it makes those who are truly suffering extreme pain and dying of cancer look at the person with skepticism. Words are powerful. And when someone questions them, the reply is “Oh, I always smile even when in pain.”  When pain is the level like with those dying of cancer in agonizing pain, there is no smiling. I too am a smiling person but when pain reaches a certain level, I can not smile, laugh or joke. I become very quiet just trying to ride through it. I vomit from the pain, can not eat from the pain, can not take care of myself from the pain and need help to even get to the bathroom. Words are powerful but so are your actions and if your actions do not match your words, people will be skeptical.

We need more love, more compassion and care and less competing for the title of who has the worst pain. It is not often you all will see me talk of my pain on here because I prefer to just deal with it but when I do talk about it, it is to give an example of what I am trying to say not to complain about my pain. I prefer joy and happiness and love and compassion. I love things like my son who tells me “hugging thoughts” when he knows my pain is so high that I can barely stand my clothes touching me. I love watching and talking about happy things instead of spending my day talking about my health. But then again, I have that faith that I know I will not die a day sooner or a day later than is intended by God. My faith carries me through a lot.

My post with the pain scale chart:

https://workthedream.wordpress.com/2011/12/16/how-to-use-a-pain-scale-chart/

May 1, 2017 Posted by | Inspiration | , , , , , | Leave a comment

   

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