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On Boundaries

Boundaries

Boundaries are important to make your life more peaceful. Some people do not know how to set boundaries and others do not know how to use boundaries. The difference in that those two things is that some people have not set any boundaries so people intrude on their lives all the time. And other people just do not follow boundaries and are constantly intruding on the lives of others.

I had to learn how to set boundaries and learn how to say no. It is alright to say no when someone wants you to do something. Yes, they might get mad for a bit but they will get over it and if they do not get over it, they were not a friend to begin with but rather someone used to using others. Have you ever agreed to do something say like be in charge of an event that you really had no interest in and really did not have the time to do and then came home mad at yourself for saying yes?  And then you felt resentful about having to do it? That is a sign we need boundaries and need to stick to them.

Decide what is right for you not to please everyone else but to please yourself. If you do not want to go somewhere, go on a girl or guy’s night out, babysit for someone, take over someone’s shift, lend money, etc, then learn how to say no. Do not make excuses cause you will get trapped in them. Just say no. Yes, some will try to guilt you but trust me when I say it is far better to come home after saying no than it is to come home and be angry with yourself and resent what you are going to be doing.

And this little part here is for those that think they “have the right” as so many put it to say or do what they want. Yes, that is true but when you step on our rights to not be bothered, you are crossing a line. Some people need to learn respect for others and sometimes we have to be the one to teach them. So, please…set boundaries and stick to them so that the ones with no boundaries do not run over you.

May 3, 2017 - Posted by | Personal opinions | , , , , ,

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