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Patience Is Learned

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We live in an instant world with Internet, cellphones, flat screen televisions, etc. And I  believe this makes us impatient for what our parents and ancestors before them worked so hard to achieve. Children think they should exactly what the parents have when it took the parents years and years to accomplish what they have.

Most things in life require lots of time and effort to be done right but few are willing anymore to take the time and put forth the effort to accomplish normal things in life. I am not sure where this attitude comes from but I see it all the time.

Just like the quote above, many things in life are like the butterfly that must fight it’s way out of a cocoon to live. To make it in life today we must be willing to fight for our very lives and possessions. I do not mean go out and beat people up but rather put in the time and effort to succeed.

I am very proud of my sons who have worked hard to be successful. Are they rich? No, just hardworking people who take care of what they have. There is so much that is expendable today that people do not take care of it.

I believe that we come into the world as children and are supposed to learn everything we can in order to make it in this world. I taught both my boys to cook, sew, clean, do laundry, etc because I wanted them to not think they had to have a wife in order to survive. Wanting a spouse is one thing but when you think you have to have one, the love gets lost.

Patience is a virtue. I have not always been the most patient person. My son used to call me “Impatience Marie”. If I planted flower seeds, I wanted flowers tomorrow. But, I have learned that when we work towards a project or item we want, the anticipation is the best part.  Dating should be a longer process so that you get to really know the one you are dating. Having children should be decided with much talk and planning for it is a big endeavor.

Everything seems to be rush, rush, RUSH. People do not have the patience to wait for anything but waiting, talking about it and looking forward to when we have it makes it all the much more special. Take time to smell the flowers, to talk with friends and family, to love one another and to enjoy life.

March 26, 2018 Posted by | Inspiration | , , , , | 2 Comments

Keeping The Faith

Sorry folks for not posting much this week. It has been quite a week. We all mutually decided to stop PT and OT because my wrist has a piece of broken off bone floating in it and my spine has a really severe place that may need more than Radio Frequency Ablation such as surgery.

Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday were days all the ones involved in Home Health came in to get me checked and signed out.  Thursday and Friday were doctor appointments so it has been hectic. I just have not had brain enough to think of writing.

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And then Friday, our hot water heater decided to have a water explosion damage part of the flooring and now we are working on how to get the 798 dollars for a new gas hot water heater. So Friday afternoon and all day Saturday was a chaotic, loud noise day.

But we are all fine and the floor has been replaced thanks to a friend helping and now son is finishing up the cleaning out of damaged wood and sheet rock to get the washer hooked back up. So, we figure tomorrow will be more peace beginning to the week.

But, never fear. satan might be trying to derail us but he will not succeed. We have all our faith in God and we hold tight to Him in these times of troubles.

Look tomorrow for a good blog and happy rest of the day.

March 25, 2018 Posted by | Inspiration | 2 Comments

Should People Always Do What Is Right?

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Stand up for what is right, even if you stand alone. And I have stood alone many times but it was worth it. How many of you have seen someone jumping physically on someone else and done nothing or worse yet, walked off. If nothing else, call the police.

Standing alone is scary. This is why so many on social media opt for the marches, etc because they feel safer in numbers. I personally am not a fan of most marches because I do not see anything productive come from them. But, if we want change in our country, we must be accountable and hold others accountable without using violence, hatred, name calling, etc.

I think one of the things social media has done is so many become cult like and follow blindly without using their own brains to determine right or wrong. It is easy to get caught up in all that drama and hate going on. I think we also have to realize that our opinion is not the only opinion in the world and allow others to express their opinions. That is how discussions get started.

So be like the eagle that soars high but has his eye focused on what he is looking for from a distance. One thing the Internet is good for is searching out facts….real facts not just want we want to hear. Sadly, I have lost trust in the mainstream media as they are caught time and again promoting stories that they did not check out and turned out to be false. This is how I vote too. I do not vote by part. I vote by person and I research each candidate extensively so that I know how they really believe. I may vote democrat on one position and Republican on another.

I say be what we want to see others be in this world…..kind, compassionate, loving and honest and maybe others will follow suit.

 

March 23, 2018 Posted by | Inspiration | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Spring Cleaning Our Hearts and Our Heads

I love this quote here. It is not mine but it is so true. What goes in us comes out of us and if all we ingest is hate and anger then that is what we will be. Time to start cleaning out all the negative, ugly, hateful things in our hearts and heads.

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I love spring cleaning time where you pull everything out and clean around and under it and get rid of what is no longer useful. So, to me, it makes sense to spring clean all the things we have accumulated over the years that trigger us and affect how we respond. We need to take them all out, put them on the table so to speak and look at them and ask ourselves why we are holding on to the negative emotions. Why are we holding on to hate and anger and other emotions that bring us down as a person?

So, I am going to do a little spring cleaning of my mind and heart and see what I can get rid of. There are things I just need to avoid which I do which is all the hate on social media. There is also things that become so common in the world that we just tend to forget that they are wrong and accept them as normal when they are not.

So, time to get out the big old brooms and rakes that years ago they beat the rugs with after they hung them on the line to get all the hidden dirt out and clean out our hearts and minds out  and give us a fresh start. Forgiving people is a good place to start, not because anything they did to hurt us or harm us is ok but because it frees our hearts to move on in life.

March 17, 2018 Posted by | Inspiration | , , , , | Leave a comment

I Can Not Be What I Hate In Others

Lesson I learned years ago. Do not act like what you hate in others. In other words, if people let you down, do not let others down just because you were let down. If people talk ugly to you, do not talk ugly to others. Give back what you want the world to be…a place of understanding, love and compassion.

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I hear people say they can not do anything to help our country but the truth is when you do nothing, you allow evil to flourish. Yes, we can all do something. We can pray if we are a believer. We can be what we want the world to be by being kind, loving, and by being compassionate, etc. Or we can be the hate and anger we see everyday on the news. I prefer the loving and kindness. It may only affect my current area where I live but I keep praying that I may touch a life that is caught up in the hate and drama so that they too want to be kind and loving instead of the hate and anger.

There are many who are angry and filled with hate who feel that way because they think no one cares. Our kindness may offer some hope to them. I see it even in our children in school that become isolated and even problem children. No one takes the time to know them or talk to them or show a little kindness.

While love and kindness may not cure all the problems, it will help at least in the immediate area who do this in by showing others that we can be loving and khttps://www.facebook.com/inspirationtoliveandlearn/ind.

 

 

 

 

 

March 15, 2018 Posted by | Inspiration | 3 Comments

How I Deal With Not So Good News

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I have had so many people ask me how I keep going and keep such a good attitude. My response is always that we can not always choose what happens to us but we can choose how we respond to it.

I got some not good news the other day. I think I already knew it in my heart of hearts  but I was just not ready for it. But now I am. I have been to a doctor appointment everyday this week. One was to the surgeon who has been overseeing my hand and he told me it was not healing like he wanted. I broke my wrist December 14, 2017, so it has been almost three months since the bad fall. He thought it would almost totally healed by now and it is not.

That fall did a lot of damage to me. I feel backwards, throwing my right  hand behind me to try to catch myself and I broke…not a crack..but snapped off the two major bones to my forearm that attach to my wrist. I tore muscles and did a lot of damage and I was told that since it is not healing well that I may never have more ability with it than I do right now. They measured my grip on this thing you squeeze. My left hand if a little above 25 and my right injured hand is 15. And I am right handed. I go back in 2 more months to see if it heals more and decide if he can fix anything. I have a piece of bone broken off my right side of my wrist and it is floating in there causing me a lot of pain. The other side of my wrist is painful because the bone shows ragged edges and is not healing well.

I have worked hard to try to get some use back of my hand but has been very very slow in responding. When I first fell I could not feed myself, brush my hair, wash my face, shower without help, put my shoes on, needed help dressing myself, wash my hair, etc. So, I took this new prognosis and said ok, if this is all I get from this hand, I can at least feed myself (even if I have to hold my hand like a fist with the handle stuck in the center of the fist to feed myself that way. I can now brush one side of my hair, wash my face,  bathe myself except for my back, which son does after I get out of the shower and have my robe wrapped around me and can even button my shirt with a lot of effort. I could not put my shoes on nor tie them. Son fixed that by buying me a pair of velcro shoes. Being independent, no matter how little or how much it is, is essential for someone like me.

I decided that no matter if I improve any or just a little or none at all, I am going to make the best of it, find new ways to do things and keep going forward. Like the picture says at the top, I do not particularly like the song my life is playing right now but I can choose to dance to this tune anyway. I never knew all the damage that a fall backwards can do. I broke my wrist, messed up my torn rotator cuff, flared an area in my spine that is now three areas of severe stenosis, loss of muscle in my hand and arm, whiplash in my neck and shoulders with ribs pulled out of place, affected my balance so that I must have my good hand holding on to something every time I stand to get in my powerchair, and flared up my neuropathy.

I do not like the song that is playing right now. It is like taking a country music person and forcing them to listen to hard rock music which they hate. But I know that if I keep working at this and have the things done that will help like Radio Frequency on my spine, having the doctor manipulate my ribs back into place and work on the whiplash, taking the medicine I need to take and being careful with myself, then things will get a little better and I can change the tune to cross over music and one day hopefully have the country music back playing in my heart. I hope that makes sense to you all..

Those of us suffering whether it be physically or mentally have the choice to decide how we will take the news we get. Do we give up and just let it take us over or do we strive to not let the pain and suffering take our joy and happiness. I am a fighter but even more so than that, I am a person of faith and I know God intervened with the “you are going to die” I was told at the hospital. So, my faith in Jesus/God and knowing where I will go when I do die gives me the peace we all need. I refuse to live my life in fear, sadness, worrying, and complaining when I still have a choice how I choose to handle all this.

Never ever quit fighting to survive. Never let despair and sadness take over your life. Choose to look each day for something good. I challenge you to do the three things you are thankful for each day. And you can not use “I am thankful for God, my family, my kids, etc but once. I have done this the past four years where so much has happened and found myself being thankful for things like a hot shower, hot coffee, taking a ride in the country, holding my grandbaby, etc. There is always something good if you look hard enough for it. Choose…just choose.

March 14, 2018 Posted by | Inspiration | 3 Comments

How Do We Deal With The Way The Country Is now?

How do we deal with how the country (and the world) is now and has been for this past year? I do not have any solutions for how anyone else deals with it. I can only tell you what I do and do not do to keep my life more tranquil.

I think we have to do everything to protect our family and home from all the hate, anger and negativity. If I can do anything to help like writing my congress and senate members I will. But if there if nothing I can do, then I have to place it in God’s hands. And place it there I do with many prayers.

I protect our serenity (my serenity) by not reading the news. I simply do not trust any of them nor any politician. Both sides are out for themselves and nothing more. So, I avoid having to ingest all this hate by reading the news. You can spot the media that are the “liberals” and “Democrats” as many say by the pictures they post. They use the most horrendous pictures they can find. And the GOP is just as bad with the hate and name calling. Now, I do not believe all liberals or Democrats nor all conservatives or Republicans are bad. I just do not want all that anger and hate and manipulation infiltrating my life. So that is step one.

On social media I guard my FB carefully and remove any political, ranting, gun arguing etc from my feed and a lot of that is permanently removed because I use the three dots beside a post that clicks and shows “remove all from..”  and I click the one that says the source of the meme, video, etc. I never see anything from that again.

I simply refuse to get into debates (which is screaming, arguing and name calling). I simple do not answer them. It is not who I am nor how I believe. I think nothing gets accomplished when emotions are that high. If I do something, I want it to make a difference in a good way.

And here at our house, we tend to pull the walls even closer to protect the serenity in our home.  We are not people who like to go to big gatherings anyway but we are the kind of people who like to protect the peace in our home.

And the last thing I do is put all of this in God’s hands. I am a person of faith and I study the Bible and have read the signs of the end of time. I may never see it in my life time nor my son’s  but it is closer than we realize. And this is why the miracle a few weeks ago saving me when all the doctors said I was dying means so much to me. And in my heart I hear the Lord telling me to always speak in kindness and love. And that is what I try to do.

March 9, 2018 Posted by | Inspiration | Leave a comment

Change Your Thoughts and Change Your World

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It is so easy when things are really tough and you get knocked down to just give up but we have a choice we can make. We can let it destroy us or we can fight to overcome it. I am a fighter for my life. I have been knocked down so many times that I can not remember how many.

I am going to use something from my life. Over the past four years I have been knocked down to where I was back in this hospital bed flat on my back each year. Yes there were times I wanted to just quit and give up but something in me said “NO, you are not done yet.” And so the first three years I worked hard to get myself sitting up and then standing up and even to taking one or two steps and then months later, I would be slapped down again only to have to start over.

That is what this over a month ago has done to me again. I could not sit up I was so weak and in so much pain but with the help of Physical Therapy at home and Occupational therapy, I am sitting up and standing up. I am not taking steps but have come a long way. I also could not feed myself because of my broken hand that was severely damaged. I could not get the fork or spoon to my mouth so began the journey of first being fed by my son and then using my fingers eating what son called a “De-constructed” chef salad. That is where he put each ingredient in a pile by itself and I would pick them up and dip them in dressing. And finallywith much training and realizing I may never have good function of my hand, I learned a new way to hold my spoon so that I could reach my mouth. Determination and taking charge of myself.

When we get knocked down it is not by choice. Something happens to knock up down. But staying down is our choice. And do not think that I am stronger than anyone else. I am not. I just choose to be strong and fight the battle. It is hard, painful but seeing the progress after 6 weeks of PT and OT, I am encouraged. So hang in there even when it is an emotional knock down and do the things you need to do to survive.

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March 8, 2018 Posted by | Inspiration | Leave a comment

Everyone Inspires Someone

We all inspire someone. It may be to inspire them to fight harder, to work harder, to be more loving, etc. Or, it can be to inspire them to do things that are bad. I have heard people tell me that they don’t want to inspire anyone or to be a role model and my reply was “You have no control over it. We may never see nor know the people we inspire but we do influence people. So maybe we should influence people for the goo.

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People we walk past in the mall or at school or walking downtown may see us do things and be inspired to do what we did. I think we see that all the time. All these riots, violence, etc are influenced by someone. Children watch their parents and siblings and grandparents, etc and learn behaviors from them. My prayer is that what we are all doing is good things and teaching those who see us good things.

Our young people are being inspired or influenced by many things. You tube is one thing and we have a lot of young teens who just want to get pregnant and quit school. And now we have a bunch of young teens who have had two or three kids, have no idea how to take care of them or how to keep house and are just lost.  And yet they have been influenced by people they have never met.

I know many parents who are awesome parents, raising their children with values and discipline and working their job and that is awesome but sadly the others that just get pregnant over and over are higher numbers than the ones we have raised right. I have two sons I am proud of who are both hard workers and make me proud. I have learned to stop before I get angry or say things ugly in front of others because I do not want to think I influenced anyone in a negative way and I am sure I have in the past.

March 6, 2018 Posted by | Inspiration | , , , | Leave a comment

Just My thoughts

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One time many moons ago I was asked who did I think I was to be telling people what to do. As the picture above says, I am not here to tell anyone what to do. I am just here to present ideas that might make people think about what was said.

I watch all that is going on in the world and our country and look at all the protesting, screaming, name calling etc and my only thought has been who is watching out for these kids who just went through trauma? Instead they are being used to promote an agenda. I strongly feel that we should never ever have discussions when emotions are so high and anger and fear. Why are these kids not getting some counseling instead of their emotions being used?

I guess I look at things in a very objective way and try to see all sides but with all the anger and hate going on, there is no sides. It is “agree with me or you are this or that”.  We do need solutions but there is no one perfect solution which is why we need to listen to all the suggestions.

Today is my rest day so that is all I will say. 🙂  Wishing you all a wonderful day.

 

March 4, 2018 Posted by | Inspiration | , | 2 Comments

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