There is a boogie man who keeps us from doing what we desire. It is called fear. It can be fear of failure, fear of it being too hard, fear of embarrassing ourselves, fear of relapsing when chronically ill….so many fears. There is a key to help overcome this boogie man. And it is letting your heart’s desire lead the way.
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Being chronically ill, it is easy to succumb to that fear and not try anything. I can remember when I got over my first major surgery and I was literally afraid to move. I was afraid I would undo the work they did on my back, afraid of the horrible pain coming back, afraid I would fall ….and the list went on.
Now, you all by now should know I am a fighter and little stops me from trying. When we become immobilized by fear, it can hinder us from doing what our hearts really want. So, I had to have a serious talk with myself and decide what was more important. Was fear going to rule the way or was my dream to be up going to rule the way.
Part of that talk included some basic facts. What if pain came back? Well, then I would ease back a little but keep going. If it got too bad, I could call the doctor. What if I fell? I realized that I had to handle these things or I would never get back on my feet. If I was afraid of falling then I put precautions into place. I used a walker or a cane or a friend’s arm to walk with.
Fear can make us almost panic or fall into that depression because we are not moving and make us totally become inert. And I do not mean the illness depression, I mean depressed which can affect our health. I had to decide which was going to win….the fear or my desire to be up walking.
Sometimes we do not have to have all the answers to go forward. We just have to have a plan that will cover the basics like I said earlier. Whatever I was afraid of, I needed to have a plan in place so that I felt more confident. Sometimes we can think we need to have all the answers and until we do, we will not do anything. But, that does not have to be the only way. Sometimes all it takes is one step forward to get things rolling.
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In order to fight a battle, you must first name what the problem is. Once you have done that it becomes less formidable and easier to handle. Never let fear rule you. Just start moving forward and let the inertia carry you. Believe in yourself.
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It is amazing to me how media and commercialism can turn a day into something it did not start out as. Valentine’s Day called St. Valentine’s Day was about certain saints, fertility and about spring in different regions. It only became mentioned as about romantic love in the 13th century and from there it has spawned into one of the most lucrative holidays we have.
Chaucer’s love birds
For this was on seynt Volantynys day
Whan euery bryd comyth there to chese his make.
[“For this was on St. Valentine’s Day, when every bird cometh there to choose his mate.”]
This poem was written to honor the first anniversary of the engagement of King Richard II of England to Anne of Bohemia. A treaty providing for a marriage was signed on May 2, 1381. (When they were married eight months later, they were each only 15 years old).”
Then came the money-making ventures. “Paper Valentines became so popular in England in the early 19th century that they were assembled in factories. Fancy Valentines were made with real lace and ribbons, with paper lace introduced in the mid-19th century.” And of course the United States began making mass-produced cards in 1847. And from there the rest is history…chocolates, flowers, cards, lingerie, balloons , anything that will make a profit are hawked on the papers, media, social websites, etc.
Starting from elementary children up, people are made to feel as if they are not worthy unless they receive cards, flowers, balloons, etc. Children in elementary school make Valentine bags or boxes for all their cards and they watch to see if everyone gives them a card. Some teachers are intuitive and require a child to bring a card for each child but many do not. And so, some children are left out.
Schools often become flooded with florists visits as they drop off flowers, bears, and chocolates for children for this day. Adults yearn for their “special one” to give them gifts and many base their idea of “love” and romanticism on Valentine’s Day. This fairy tale image of what love should be is perpetuated in the media and movies and then people get in relationships and marry and wonder why it is not like this all the time.
I see those that do not get all the special Valentine’s stuff being hurt and I see those that are getting it and buying into the hype that goes with it that love is perfect and always beautiful and sunny when it is not being hurt too. Love is a working relationship where yes, you will be disappointed; yes you will disagree; yes you will forget important dates, and yes you will be so happy and feel the love but there may be days when it is not all fairy tale like Valentine’s day. That is reality. So, I see those who buy into the hype that stores promote and media being hurt too by creating an illusion that is not real.
This is danLrene’s philosophy about Valentine’s Day. I think it is a lot like “random acts of kindness”. Why should kindness be random? Why should Valentine’s day be about ONE day that is all about love? And why should it only be about one kind of love? Why not be kind every day and do acts of kindness all the time? Why not show your love, whether it is romantic or friends or family or your special pet love ALL the time instead of building it up into hype that hurts many people? I do not do commercial anything anymore. Our Christmases are more beautiful because we focus on family and being together and doing things together and not on the gifts in the store and it is the same with all holidays. I have had my flowers and candy and you know what…the flowers die and the candy gets eaten and I would rather have that love all year-long than one day and then it is over.
Some will say “Oh, danLrene is just mad she has no Valentine gifts this year”. The truth is that I do have Special Valentines and gifts. In fact, I have many valentines..I have family valentines like my sons and my Sweetpea, Mama, my sweet Daisy and some very dear friends who make sure this day is special by just making sure I am included in their day like they do every day of the year. And their gifts to me are LOVE, TIME and CARING.
My older than dirt wisdom has shown me that the most important thing in life is those around me that I love and not a fairy tale perpetuated by stores wanting our money and by media hype. What I value most is LOVE and time spent with those I love And so today…I wish you a very Happy Valentine’s Day and pray that your day is filled with the love of those around you whether it be that phone call from a family member or friend that is far away, or a visit with family and friends, or the special love your pet gives you. And if you are alone, shower that love on someone you know or on yourself and bring joy.
Does not that sound better than celebrating a holiday that started as a pagan ritual for fertility and then later cast as a holiday about St. Valentine and from there moved into a money making scheme just like Christmas has become and Easter? Make our Valentine’s day be an every day event and show people how much you love them, show those who have no one how much you care, and reach out to the world. And actually do something special even if alone like renting a movie you have wanted to see, making a special family dish to eat, painting a picture, buying yourself a bouquet of flowers to enjoy the smell and beauty of for you are just as special as anyone else in the world. And look for the good things. Tomorrow chocolates will go on sale for over fifty percent off.
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I started this blog because we were following our dream of moving out here to the mountains and wanted to chronicle it as it was happening and still happening. I truly believe we all need dreams to keep us going and once one is realized, you find another dream. Our dreams change as time goes by.
Our circumstances may change and our health may change but dreaming should never change. I dream of many things. Sometimes all I can do is just dream the dream. And other times I can do things to work towards that dream.
Dreams do require work. Rarely do dreams just drop in from the sky and land in our laps. We have to get out there and do what is expected to make them come true and sometimes that requires a lot of hard work. But, if you really want it…you will do whatever it takes. Sometimes working your dream requires giving up things, missing events, less partying, and hours of dedication. It can require determination and strength to keep dreaming.
So, are you working your dream(s)? Are you making it your priority? How badly do you want to have your dreams come true? Never give up for things can change in a minutes, an hour or a day. And while you are dreaming please do not forget to dream for your loved ones. I dream for my children and for my granddaughter. I dream for family and friends for their dreams to come true too. I dream for all of you that you are exactly where you are meant to be. If you are not where you want to be, I dream that you find the way up to where you want to be. I dream that your dreams are coming true. Many of mine are. :) Just do not forget to “work the dream” and most of all, no matter what happens, do NOT stop dreaming. We all need dreams.
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I love this video for it shows the beauty of moving water. Water like this is alive just like we are and it has to keep moving or it becomes stagnant. Sometimes it has to go over rocks and it is a bumpy ride. Sometimes it gets jammed up with branches and trash and stops moving. Just like we can do at times.
I believe we have to keep moving for life to keep flowing. We have to keep dreaming because the dreams will carry on. Just because we do not get them answered today, dreams do come true. Remember it took us starting in 2005 to plan to move to Colorado and we did not arrive where we wanted until 2011. We got to Colorado but we did not get to the small town area we wanted until later. It was a lot of hard work and time but oh, was it worth it.
In this day and time of everything “instant”, it is hard for people to want to wait on their dreams. I hear people talking about wanting what their parents worked a life time to achieve. Some have even killed to get it. They do not stop to think that it was their parents dream and they worked all their lives to arrive there. They want it now and do not want to work for it. Somehow they have lost that ability to dream and to work for a dream. And they miss the joy of working towards the dream. Anticipation is part of the dream and the enjoyment.
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I believe dreams keep our river of life alive and fill us with hope if we allow it. But, we can not sit still and allow our lives to stagnate. Have you ever seen what stagnant water looks like? All sorts of trash and debris are in there and the water becomes poisonous. That is what we do to our lives if we do not keep moving and striving to live. We let other things in our lives bring us down instead of the fresh, clean revitalizing water of life that comes with moving. And I do not mean the movement of strenuous exercise or jogging or playing sports. I mean the movement to keep our hearts and our minds fresh and uncluttered. Like that expression “you are what you eat”, well, we are what we think too and if all we think is negative then that is how life will be.
Life is like a river. The beautiful clean and vibrant water keeps flowing…never ending. But, along the sides are little inlets of stagnant water just like real life. There are people who keep dreaming and keep working and embracing life and along the way are people who just shut themselves off and refuse to grow…to evolve and to become. No, it is not an easy battle but the outcome is so much better than just sitting still. Yes, there are bumps along the way just like the river flowing over rocks but we can move past them….just like the water does. We have to learn to let the problems, the sickness, the depressing things in life flow off of us just like the river flows so that it makes our soul and hearts clean and ready to go again. And it does not have to be a motionless place that carries the hidden trash in our lives. Those dark thoughts can flow with us through life if we do not clean them out and deal with them and move on.
I love the visual that water is alive and free for that is how I feel even with my health issues. My heart…my spirit are free and I soar through the clouds and I wade in the waters and I enjoy life. Yes, I had to adapt to do that and sometimes it is all visually and through my senses but it is still beautiful. I am not sure why my senses are so strong. Maybe because I am hearing impaired and so pick up with my other senses. I can hear if you are close and I see your face…just impaired if you are not in front of me and close. I learned to make myself smell foods when I visualized them, to hear sounds when I saw a picture…learning to combine my senses.
Please do not dam your river of life up. Allow it to run free and experience all of life. The rough times will only make you appreciate the good times all that much more. Share your life with those around you and put your rivers together for in number the river becomes stronger and gives you a life-preserver to hang on to when the river gets a little rough. But most of all, do not stop moving forward even if it is by inches.
cancer SURVIVOR Edie Sundby
People ask me all the time why I refuse to give up and why I fight so hard and I read this quote yesterday and thought that says it all. I fight so hard to keep going because I love life and I do not fear dying. Is every minute of every day a good time? No, it is not. In fact some moments are extremely hard and painful like today is. And even though I am smiling today, the pain is clear in my eyes and the struggle is showing with dark circles under my eyes. Many people fail to see how sick I am and how much pain I am in right now because of that smile. My sons know because they recognize the signs that say I am fighting harder than ever.
But, I have such great moments when I have good ones that they overshadow the really bad times. Times like watching with great pride while my son makes homemade bread all on his own or talking to a dear friend on messenger or calling Mama and talking to her or getting a picture of my Sweetpea and her daddy.
When I look back through my life, I ask myself would I change anything? Oh my yes, I would and I think most people would. I would love more, laugh more often, forgive easier, and know who truly cared about me. I would have tried to be an even better parent to my boys but I do know because they tell me that most of all they know they were loved.
There are also wonderful memories over my lifetime that sustain me and bring me smiles and help ease the pain I live in and that is why I fight so hard and refuse to give up. I am 65 and unlike many women I do not mind telling my age because I am proud I made it to 65. And I believe God has kept me here for a reason. I also believe that my attitude (my mojo) that comes from my faith is what has kept me here smiling. Everyone has a Mojo song that when they listen to it, it runs through their system and makes them want to get up. This is mine. #Whoopie inspires me every time with that song.
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I fight so hard and refuse to give up because I love life that much, I love my family that much, I love my family of choice so much…..and I know where I will be when I die and so I am not afraid of dying. I prefer living to dying.
So, whether I look like this:
or even this:
Just know that I am always this inside no matter which way I am feeling. I am always Mojo Mama. I am always fighting to win the race. I always have my mojo on like the picture below whether I am laying flat on my back in serious pain like now with my back, or having a “blue bag” day from sick stomach, or whether it is an exhaustion day where I just can not get up. The difference in survivors and victims is that survivors focus on solutions and ways to make life a little easier and victims focus only on the problems and why they can not do anything to help themselves. It is a choice and I choose to be a survivor and choose to fight to keep living life. Being a survivor does not mean we never get down. It means we do not stay there.
We can not always control what happens to us but we CAN control how we deal with it.
There is a light shining out of all of us. In some of us it is stronger than others because we work to keep that light shining. That light is our happiness, our joy, our passion, our love, our compassion, our drive, etc. But, have you ever noticed how some people can drain all of that out of you in just a very short time? People who insist on being negative about everything, who are angry, resentful and moan and groan all the time about how bad life is are usually the ones that hit me the most. But, I have learned not to let people do that to me. It is my life and I have to be in charge of it.
I am sure by now some of you are thinking…well, how do I stop them from doing that. Without realizing it, we train people on what we will and will not accept in our lives. If we stand there listening to their moaning and groaning about everything in life, then they assume we like to hear it. And one of the first signs that we need to put some distance between us and them is when we are mentally thinking “My gosh I wish they would shut up!” or we go home thinking “I am so glad to be home and do not have to listen to so and so again”.
When I run into people that give off the depressing, angry, negative aura coming from them, I move away from them. If I can not do it physically, I do it mentally by focusing my attention elsewhere. I have learned that nothing you say to these people is going to make them see the brighter side of life. They like too much being the way they are. And if you are not careful they will extinguish your light.
When I am struggling with my health, pain, finances, etc…I need all my energies to do that and if someone is an emotional vampire as I call it, they will drain me dry and leave nothing left for me to work with. Some people are deliberately that way and some do it and have no idea what a downer they are. It really does not matter the reason because the truth of the matter is….if it is pulling you down ..or me…then we need to vacate the premises and put ourselves in a more positive place.
I am chronically ill and disabled and occasionally I will tell about what I go through but I try hard to not have it as a mantra. I try to discuss it and not whine about it or magnify it so that people feel sorry for me. Being a victim can be addicting because the fix is all the loving comments and attention people show. No one, and that includes those of us that are sick and try to still keep up a positive outlook on life, likes to be around someone who never sees anything good in life. I believe what we let into our brains affects how we look at life. This is why I do not watch reality television because I think all the stupid games, jealousy, fighting, name calling, anger and hate are things that only pull me down emotionally and mentally and I do not want that.
Sometimes people are afraid to let their light shine, to act as happy as they are or be as positive as they are because they are afraid those that they are around will make fun of them or will judge them as nothing is wrong when they are sick or going through a crisis. I say let your light shine because you may be lifting someone else up from the murky waters of despair. Do not let anyone or anything dim your light and your passion for life. It is your choice and for me…I choose to vacate the premises so to speak and the announcer can say “And Deb has left the building” when the negative Nellies and moaners and groaners show up.
I have had people tell me that they could not back off from certain people because they felt responsible for making them happy. My mother was one of those that felt like we should all entertain her and make her happy. And we all tried and she was never happy even with that. The reason is….WE are responsible for creating our own happiness inside. Happiness is an inside job…not what we get from the outside. And so, since you can not make another person happy then it is ok to put some space between you and them when they are so negative. You can bring them joy and laughter, but happiness is up to them. If you do not take care of you first, you are of no use to anyone else. It is like that saying..when the plane is crashing..put your OWN oxygen on first….then you can help others.
So, let your light shine. Let nothing dim it. Let it shine…let it shine…let it shine…all over everyone for you may energize another person’s light that has dimmed.
This song has carried me through the past few years. Although it was written because someone died from cancer that the singer loved, it is about all people struggling and especially those with chronic illness and incurable illnesses.
“they say the road to heaven might lead us back through hell”
believe me when I say it does.
“Maybe tonight, maybe tomorrow..we’ll win this fight and bury this sorrow”
“So, We live strong.”
Oh, yes we do. And we live stronger when you are with us.
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“Wideawake performance of Maybe Tonight, Maybe Tomorrow at Antone’s in Austin, Texas. Download the song at iTunes. All proceeds go to help those at the Live Strong Foundation”
The things the chronically ill face daily are not easy. It is a battle constantly to survive and make it through to the next step. We under go procedures praying they will help us just like I underwent the Radio Frequency Ablation on my spine in 8 areas each time and on different areas. It was not easy but I did it. Or the Kidney surgery or the embolization of the next kidney tumor, or the heart catherization. I could go on and on with my list just like many others.
Thanks to the internet, those that are chronically ill and/or have terminal illnesses are able to join with others and not feel so alone for it is hard for those not sick to understand even though they feel compassion and love. It is by encouraging each other we can continue our fight. And by the wonderful warriors who stay by our side and keep pushing us forward. And that is the key for if all we do is agree when a person in a self-defeating mode, we are encouraging victim mentality. We must encourage others to keep fighting and to keep moving forward and to overcome.
A dear friend walked behind me to push when I could not go, beside me to encourage me when I was moving forward on my own and in front of me to blaze the trail to make it easier if she could. She has held my hand, dried my tears, yelled at me to “fight damn it..fight, played me music to soothe my soul, and told me “I am here friend”. She searched out medical information to help me, sent me things to make my journey easier like fleece covers that did not hurt and red spike high heels because my heart dreamed for them and would Skype me just to see my face so she would know if I was really alright. And sometimes she just simply sat with me in silence because I was too weak to talk. What a gift she was to me.
Believe me when I say that the best gift you can give someone chronically ill, disabled, facing cancer, incurable auto immune disorders, chronic illness or other catastrophic illnesses or anything catastrophic in life is the gift of love, of friendship. The best gift you can give them is yourself..your love, just being there to hold their hand..dry their tears, to help fight the battles that sometimes are just too much to fight at the moment. When you do that for someone like me and others, you become a hero in our book.
The most important thing for those chronically ill is to keep fighting, keep working on life and living. We can not control death but we can control how we spend our lives and the joy we have in our lives until that day. This song above has very special meaning for me and carries me through really rough times. I hope you all enjoy it. Listen to the words for that is our world…the sick with cancer, the sick with auto immune disorders and other disabling and chronic conditions. We live with “maybe today…maybe tomorrow” they might find a cure. For there is no cure for auto immune disorders. And with cancer, the cures are slow coming. Our injured vets are in the same boat waiting for “maybe today…maybe tomorrow they will be able to help me.” They were injured fighting for us. It is time we fought for them by just being there for them and letting them know they are not alone as they heal from catastrophic injuries during their tours.
You can not walk the trail for us but you sure can make it easier by walking with us. Please do not let fear keep you from being with those that you love and care about or even from those you see in need. Many years back, I took a friend for chemo and radiation for weeks on end so she did not have to go alone. There was a woman in there who had no one to be with here and I watched her call family member after family member because she was alone and terrified and no one would come and be with her. My heart broke for her so I went and got on my knee in front of her and said “It will be ok” and started talking to her telling her what they would do and that they gave in the IV medicine to help with the nausea, etc. While we were talking, someone finally returned her call and barked into the phone “What is wrong? so loud that I could hear it. She smiled at me and told them “Nothing. I am fine now” and hung up. So, I sat between both my friend and this woman and we all talked as both got their treatments.. All it takes is a little time and a little love to give something back to the universe. Many say they are too busy but they are not too busy to do things that they just want to do. Treat others like you want to be treated when you are sick and hurting.
This was written a couple of years ago during a hard time like now. The dream of dancing always helps me ride through the pain. I go in two weeks to the surgery center and hopefully will be out of this extreme pain and back to my normal that I live with daily. I may not post daily but will try to put some older blogs up for you all to see.
For LISA: I got your letter hon and thank you. Yes I will answer. If you want to talk to me on email post on here as all my comments from others have to be approved before they become live on the blog so I can get your message without others seeing it and then email you. Love to you hon
The more my legs decline the more this poem and what it signifies means to me. I am losing my legs inch by inch. The muscles are deteriorating and the legs are losing strength day by day. Blood tests show my muscle enzymes are high and taking me off satins has not helped. It is the muscles shrinking and weakness no matter how much I exercise them with the stretchy bands. More lies ahead. But as with all things…I still have that dance inside my head and heart and can dance anytime I want…right here laying on this bed. Many things I am missing now…but not in my heart and mind. Never ever give up and on those days when you can not do anything; close your eyes and do it anyway.” danLrene
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The Last Dance
With wisps of hair across her beautiful face
Tears on her cheeks your finger could trace
She stood there with head bowed in humble prayer
Feeling as if she were the only one that cared
She closed her eyes and listened once more
To the music that always drew her to the door
The music rose in tempo and sound
She knew her time was coming around
Was her dream to dance just one last dance
And she knew tonight was her only chance
Rising on toes, she danced across the stage
Her body tensing up for the very next page
As she jumped to twirl up in the air
She suddenly felt his hands right there
He lifted her higher than she had ever flown
And twirled and danced better than she had ever known
He molded himself to her as if one
And remained there lifting her until the dance was done
The applause thundered and echoed around the room
And she felt as if life had just started to bloom
As the sounds died down, she smiled with tears
Not being able to dance was one of her fears
Then she opened her eyes and looked around
Oxygen hoses and hospital beds are what she found
As she glanced down she saw her toes pointed down
And she knew only her attitude kept her bed bound
No matter what happened she could dance so free
She just had to close her eyes and the stage she would see
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The world has certainly changed in the past years and part of that change has been in how those that run our country have changed. Now let me start with this caveat…..I am neither Republican nor Democrat nor Tea-party nor Independent nor any of the other Political parties. I am an American.
When I vote, I vote by person and not by party. To be honest I am sick of parties and all the political drama of the past years. So, being as I am older than dirt, here is my message to ALL politicians and as I find most politicians just skim things I am going to make it in bullets so it is easier to skim the blog and still get the message. Maybe I should put it in the News so that some of you read it but then again we have news media that has bias and does not tell all the news so that might not work. So here goes my message.
1. Remember why you were voted into office. It was to serve us not your own personal interests. It was not to make you rich as you pledged to serve the country. It was not so that you could push special agendas through. It was to serve the country and make America better.
2. Stop acting so childish and self-serving. I swear sometimes I feel like I am watching the kindergarten children I used to teach fighting over this or that and crying “Mine!” “Mine!” Your job is not about you. It is about the American people. And when I saw the behavior when the new congress and senate began, I was embarrassed as were many by those that could not lose gracefully and go on with the business of running the country.
3. Stop doing things many American people are telling you that they do not want for our country. America showed you they wanted change in this last election so instead of plotting to block the party in power now or block the party that was in power or block the president….why not work together for the good of our country?
And LIVE UP to the promises you made. It is like watching Sybil sometimes as you change your statements over and over from your years of being a politician and then swear you never said what is on video and in the news that you did say. Sometimes I want to yell and say “Will the real politician please stand up”. The state of Colorado actually recalled politicians for not following through on their campaign promises. BE the politician that we thought you were when you ran for office.
4. Start standing up for our men and women in military in actions not just words and all those that have served. Take care of our vets and those in the service now and do not put them in harm’s way. It is deplorable that men and women who are putting their lives on the line for all of us…including you…are having to be on food stamps, are not getting the medical care they need and that many are dying before they get help. One day you will want them to protect you and where will you be? Stop making platitudes and actually do something to help.
5. Stop turning us into a welfare country. We have very capable men and women who can and do work, who want to work but can not find jobs and who really do not want to be dependent on the government. Create opportunities not more welfare programs.
6. START balancing the budget instead of acting like we can just keep printing off more money. I taught my kids to be responsible with money and to balance their checkbooks and after the first overdrawn or hard time, they learned to handle their money so you all can learn to handle the money that comes from the taxpayers too.
7. LEARN how to compromise. While some of you are arguing for one little thing, others are passing bills or putting people into positions that you are not aware of because you have a very narrow focus. And just to clarify, Compromise does not mean do it my way. It means learning how to give and take to get the most important job done.
8. STOP the racial divide. It again is like high school teams that line up with their team and that is the only team. Until we stop focusing on the differences in us such as sex, color, religion, etc, then we will never come together as a nation. We must focus on the things we have in common such as wanting equal pay, equal opportunity, caring about our country, working to fix any problems, and other things we all want to see happen.
We are all different and all have different races in us. I am NA, German, English, French, Scottish, Irish and Canadian. What made us the melting pot is that we blended our cultures instead of keeping them separate and focusing on one culture. That does not mean to not be proud of your background for I am proud of all my cultures. I like learning about all of them but what I love most is that I am an American. That is my home. Being of one culture or the other does not make that culture more important than another.
9. STOP attacking each other and name calling and hunting up trash on each other to put on the internet and the news. Trust me when I say we are smart enough to research you all out ourselves. We do not need it daily in the news, on the television or on the radio.
10. START defending and standing up for our country. If we do not respect and love our country, no one else will respect us either: Defend the country, fix things that need fixing, and remove people in positions that need to be removed. And when all the stupid crap that goes on comes out on the news media, we show the rest of the world that we are a divided nation and we should not be. And believe me when I say, people are smart enough to know when things are being withheld so stopping the media from reporting the things some of you do in office or say is not part of your job. The media are supposed to be the watchdog though some are failing miserably at that and they should report when you all do things in secret, make decisions that are against what you said, etc.
Now, I am sure many of you politicians will roll your eyes and act like what I just said is dumb but if you are the real deal, you will stop a minute and focus on things you do that you might could do differently to make our country the best it can be.
Simply danLrene…an American who loves her country.