Life is a continuous state of learning if we choose to learn. I love learning new things and reading on new, innovative things. Being chronically ill and in severe pain a lot, researching on the internet gives me an outlet when I can not do much more than lay here. It also helps distract me as I use alternative methods for my pain along with traditional methods to try and deal with such severe pain.
I went to the doctor for the severe pain in my feet and I mean severe. As I told the doctor, just touching or barely bumping my feet on something feels like someone is trying to saw my foot or my toes off with a dull saw. It really is horrific and has made life quite difficult for the past months. This doctor checked my feet and we talked about what I had been diagnosed with, which Neuropathy was one of the things, what had already been used and we discussed a few things he wanted to try plus he wants me to see a vascular doctor.
Now this is where the learning came in. I mentioned a few of the things my pain specialist uses to try to help my pain which two of them are Voltaren gel and Lidocaine gel. I use the Voltaren on many different areas of my body but the Lidocaine I was using solely on my feet along with my medications. So, this doctor recommended me using a “specialty pharmacy” and having them create a cream made just for me and my problems. I had never heard of a specialty pharmacy and so looked it up when I got home. Meanwhile, my doctor was contacting one to create this cream for my feet.
A specialty pharmacy according to this website https://www.pharmacist.com/specialty-pharmacy says that a Specialty Pharmacy “focuses on high cost, high touch medication therapy for patients with complex disease states. Medications in specialty pharmacy range from oral to cutting edge injectable and biologic products. The disease states treated range from cancer, multiple sclerosis and rheumatoid arthritis to rare genetic conditions.” I was impressed. I knew many countries go to a compounding Pharmacist who makes their medicine right there instead of a bottle from a pharmacy company like here.
One of my biggest problems with taking more pills to help the pain was that I have a large ulcer and three or four smaller ones so I can not take certain medications by mouth. For example, one medicine they use for nerve pain is Neurontin or Gabapentin which is the generic. So, I could see where my doctor was going. He wanted something I could apply directly to the pain instead of just swallowing it and it affecting my whole body.
I get a call a few days later from the Specialty Pharmacy telling me they had made my cream and would be shipping it to me and it was covered by my insurance. That was a huge worry for me as some things that are “different” insurance will not cover. The day I got it, I read all the instructions and it was created where I just pumped the container twice for each foot and it gave me an exact amount. This cream contains Gabapentin, Lidocaine and some other ingredients.
Not expecting great results I applied it to my feet that night and what the medicine is supposed to do is block the signal as much as possible of pain that my feet were sending to my brain. I actually slept that night better than ever and I apply this every six hours. Just to tell you how much it helped, shortly before it is time again, I could feel the pain again and it was horrible. I reapplied and it went down again but I kept thinking wow, that pain is so horrific I do not know how I was standing it.
No, my pain is not all disappeared as I have joint pain, muscle pain, nerve pain from my spine and like building blocks, what this cream did was help remove one area of pain which makes my over all pain level better. So, if you are like me and have a lot of pain but can not take some of the medicines orally that they use for pain, try asking your doctor about Specialty Pharmacies and maybe they can create something just for you that might help. They deal with some of the worst diseases like cancer, MS, RA and other extremely painful conditions and because I have so many things wrong, they were an answer from God for me. And I learned something new.
Now, let me start off by saying that I am not into conspiracy theories, BUT there comes a time when you have to wonder. I am sure everyone has been seeing all the theories on HRC and what is wrong with her and is she using body doubles because she is so sick. I saw the video of her collapse at the Memorial service and the seizure like episodes and that is not normal health.
Let me clarify something before I talk about all of this. I am not a Democrat nor am I a Republican but I am definitely an American. I vote by the person not by party. When people ask me what I am I always tell them I am an American. I personally hate “parties” and think they have been the downfall of our country.
So, back to the conspiracy theories out there. People and a lot of people believe they are using body doubles for HRC and have gone to great lengths to try to prove their point. They go by eye color, by hair, by weight, by her hands, by her smile and her wrinkles and the list goes on. Some of them have great points but you still never know truth from fiction.
These are the things that make me think that HRC is critically ill and that the Democrats are trying to hide it. First off, main stream media avoids mentioning anything about all these health issues even when they are quite obvious. If there is nothing to hide, why hide it. The videos I have seen of her appearing to have seizures, the blue glasses, the collapse to where they literally threw her in the van leaving her shoe behind tell me something is bad wrong with HRC. Why are they hiding it, why is she avoiding the media, why is she having all these spells? And all through all the coverage that is done by individuals and smaller news media, my mind is screaming “Does NO ONE care about this woman’s health????” That is what bothers me.
So then I have to ask are the Democrats, the Clintons and everyone around her so determined to get her into office even though she is very ill that they would lie and hide things? Of course we know politicians lie so that answers my question but I just can not fathom that Chelsea and Bill love HRC so little that they would let her be treated like luggage, led around by a handler, doubles used for her and her even being reported that she was dead. So, what is going on here?
I have a video. There are many of them out there on you tube. Just look for them. But this one makes valid points with pictures of HRC. So, I ask you to please with an open mind watch the video and do not fall into cult like mode where you will defend anything and everything. We have brains and we have reasoning powers. Some we can say oh just conspiracy theories. But a lot like how does Hillary change weight within a couple of hours, how does she go from wrinkled on her neck and face to a firm neck and barely any wrinkles, from blue-eyed to brown-eyed and back are things I think anyone with any sense would say what is going on here.
I do not mind anyone disagreeing with me but I ask that no hate and attacking be done. We will never come together as a country if we remain so divided that we are not willing to listen to things that are happening and I want someone, ANYONE to care about her health. I may not have been for her as President but I definitely am for her as a human being and what I have seen is horrific for her to go through. Can we put politics aside and look at HRC as a human being who deserves to be treated right and taken care of health wise?
Video by Aggroed Lighthacker
Turned out to be a longer sabbatical than I thought it would be but a much-needed one. Things are still rough as my spine is not fixed yet, I am being sent to a vascular doctor for my feet and lower legs and just had endoscopy which showed up one large ulcer and three smaller (not small…just smaller) ulcers in my stomach. I go back in six weeks for a repeat to see if the meds are helping.
I have wanted to write on this topic for a while. It seems the world wants to keep dividing instead of multiplying or uniting like we should. We pass around more labels than ever before and labels belong on soup cans. And I look at the destruction that has been done to my country over the past months and think with such sadness of how we all came together after 9/11 to join forces: No division and no fighting just bringing unity. I pray it does not take that again for us to wake up.
So, what has laid on my mind and heart is this. Every time we pass on a picture of ugliness, or racism, of killing, of extreme negativity we are helping keep it alive. Did you ever think about that. We think we are helping but all we are doing is reminding people of things that keep people divided. There is just so much craziness that if I did not have the complete faith in God, my Father, in Christ, my savior, I might succumb to the fear so many have. I just know that God takes care of his own. And I also know that when people are in a state of fear or anger, they do not think rationally. I truly believe that we need to have better investigation of these crimes and I believe the media needs to quit feeding info to keep people stirred up.
I have never constantly pushed my health issues in the front for everyone to see. Why? Because I don’t want pity, I don’t want attention, I just want to serve the Lord and if it means doing it hurting then so be it. I believe Satan keeps throwing these things at me so I will stop working for the Lord but I will not stop. And I know when I can not go a step further, God is carrying me.
So, lets talk about unity. We can not have unity if all we do is use labels. Labels divide and make distinctions between us. When we label others or ourselves, we are drawing a line saying they are different from me. How can you unify if we are always putting labels on everything. I remember watching a Black man teaching his daughter who started school for the first time and he had her repeating things like….I am good, I am not bad, no one is better them me, I am kind, I am beautiful. I thought it was beautiful because he was trying to prepare her for the ugliness that can occur when we send our kids off to school. And where do these kids who yell out obscenities and name calling learn how to do this? Someone has TAUGHT them whether it be the parents, the grandparents, the siblings…someone close to the child has taught them to hate and name call.
This is my take on these riots. When they destroy property and hurt people, they cease being a rioter and become criminals. Some Blacks were out there trying to get people to stop fighting and to talk but they would not. They even tried to set a journalist on fire and the journalists said it was too dangerous to stay and cover the story now. When has it ever been that bad in our country before besides Ferguson and Baltimore and this case. How is this helping the situation? Or is the hate and name calling increasing the violence? I think adults should be able to discuss and I do not think any person, cop or not, in their right mind would be showing up with the intent to kill, not with the way the hate climate is right now. There will always be ugliness in the world, on the internet and we have to make a choice to NOT fall into their games to get us to react. I recently had a “self-proclaimed Christian” make disparaging and insulting remarks about me and because I have known this person for years and years and know what they are truly like, I just had to smile and go on my way. I could have let myself get drawn into the drama that they like to stir but I do not like games and I definitely do not like the drama. Life is full of choices and I don’t need flowery religious pictures and quotes to get my point across. Life is full of choices including being happy and we have to choose just like we have to choose to not get caught up in the hatred, racism, and games people like to play.
Just to let you all know I am taking a short sabbatical due to health reasons. I am having severe spinal issues and leg issues and torn rotator cuff issues which have sidelined me.
I ask you please to not give up on me or unsubscribe as I will be back soon. It is just hard for me to think with this much pain. I have had injections into the shoulder joint to try to help and had OMT’s performed on me to try to help.
Sometimes life throws us curve balls and seems to stop us in our tracks but those that have followed me for very long know this about me:
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I thank you all who read my blog for you lift my heart and give me purpose. And I thank all of you who have bought my Poetry book off Amazon. That was a major accomplishment for me as was getting 1000 plus subscribers. Thank you from my heart. Please do not give up on me so that I do not give up on me.
And a very special thank you to those of you who have bought my book and written reviews on it. You have touched my heart deeply and have inspired me to keep going and do the work I believe God has laid out for me. Love you all.
You all have heard me say that victims only talk about all the things wrong and all the problems. Survivors know the things wrong and they look for solutions to help make things better. So, my question today as I look around the internet and I see massive amounts of media posting the most ugly, negative post you can about cops, about politicians, about people in general is where are the warriors?
I can tell you a few of them for I see them. There are Black cops who are trying to reach the ones that are hating, fighting and creating more problems and help calm the storm. Nothing good comes from such agitation. There are other people out there of all races who are striving to calm the storm so that we can all listen and come to conclusions. There are cops all over who are trying to help those that are in such need and trying to show the love and compassion we want from our law enforcement. There are teachers who are taking training trying to understand better how to have discussion on this to find solutions to bring unity to us all.
And then I see those that want to argue on every positive post and make comments that are negative or to try to prove their point that either this side or that side is bad. We do not need to prove. We need to find solutions to help everyone be the person they can be to the fullest. How is it helping the situation for White people who think they are “helping” to keep posting stories about how this cop or that cop was evil or did something bad? Why not post things that are positive that people are trying to do to heal the broken trust, to do good and to make the relationship better on both sides?
I watched as angry White people threw in the face of angry Black people how their own people sold them as slaves. I just felt my jaw drop and I had to write on that thread…”So, your point is what? That because some Blacks in Africa sold their own for money then it is alright? Wrong is wrong people. And slavery was wrong. I am so ashamed our country did that and that any country does it.But the wrong does have ramifications.
And then I heard angry Black people throw in the faces of angry White people how all Cops and all White people are nothing but killers and racists. Seriously folks, how is this helping? All Whites are not racist and killers and all Blacks are not thugs and criminals. Can we stop the blame game and move on to the healing that needs to be done. Are there bad Cops? Yes. Are there Black people who have done bad things? Yes, just as there are of any race. We acknowledge that so can we now work on solutions? That means people of each race trying to calm their own so that people can talk and can learn and not be so filled with hate at each other.
Just a thought….we do not have to tell all the bad stories about Cops or White people to solve the problems. Now do we have to tell all the bad stories about blacks who committed crimes or did this or that. We need warrior attitude which is find solutions for the problems and promote the positive that IS going on with both sides. Remember my saying….Victims focus on all the things wrong and that is all they talk about. Survivors know the things wrong and they focus and talk about ways to make things better. All Whites are not racist nor haters and all Blacks are not thugs and criminals. Only a small portion of our country is that way. Those of us that want to change things are tired of the media and of people presenting everything they “heard” that is bad about Whites or about Blacks. We can not have any form of healing if all we do is focus on the problems and never work on solutions. Negativity, hatred and racism just produce more negativity, hatred and racism.
How about we produce positive things going on like the boy I posted about who was living in a tent so he could go to college because he wanted to make his life better and the cops helped him. That was a two-way street. This young man was polite, he did not fight, he did not argue and the cops actually sat down and listened to what was going on and found a way to help him. Now that my friends is promoting unity in our country.
Maybe if you are one of those so angry from either side, the next time you feel like spewing hater or telling the world once again all the bad things Cops did or all the bad things Blacks did or all the bad things White people did, you take a time out. Go sit down somewhere and think about the good things any of these people have done and write them down. Look for the good and you will find it and promote the good. We can not always control what happens to us in life but we CAN control how we react to it. If we only think about the bad things and we only look for bad things, that is all we will see. Like a camera, maybe we should change our focus and turn our lens to the good things.
This poem is one of my favorites. It was written about children but I think it applies to adults too. It is called “Children Learn What They Live”. As you read it, I want to ask you to read it in the context of what have you been teaching people about themselves? Have we been teaching people to hate or to fear or to think they are no good? Just think about it as you read this and only you can answer that within your heart. It has made me more conscious of what I say to others for this is no dress rehearsal. We get one chance in this world and I want my chance to be one where I uplift others and love others.
Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte
Video of the boy who rode his brother’s bike six miles and was sleeping in a tent so that he could enter college and what happened. Awesome story: http://www.wsbtv.com/news/local/homeless-teen-bikes-6-hours-to-get-to-college-sleeps-in-tent/401160413?ea2CcF
I have had an extremely hard time writing lately. This is going to be rambling rose here as I try to work through all of this. I have people tell me how strong I am and I am especially when it comes to dealing with all the health issues. But lately, I have been a gardenia. And for those that do not know what that means, a gardenia is a delicate flower and if you touch it, it bruises. I can handle most anything anymore but what has made my heart heavy is all the hate, anger, violence that we see on the media, in politics, in the country here and everywhere. It is bad enough we are warring with other countries but we have warred within ourselves here in our own country. And that to me is beyond sad for a country divided will fall. So, get your coffee or coke, pull up a chair and listen to me ramble here.
I have written some in the past like on the shooting in Orlando and other places and the shootings the past few days have really saddened my heart. Why, oh why can people not just show compassion and love. There are parents and family members who lost their loved ones that are crying and grieving. Are we incapable of feeling compassion for that? No matter the reason the killings are a tragedy that has affected many, and I cautioned many against making early judgments about what happened in those two shootings for one reason. That reason was that when you get so angry that you start making statements that include with anger the words “All”, “Every”, and “Never”, you are fueling your anger and sparking this kind of anger in others. Nothing is “all”. All cops are not bad. All Blacks are not thugs. All whites are not racist. See my point here? Anger can be a good thing. It is what you do with that anger that matters. Dallas is a good example of that with 5 dead White policemen.
I am going to delve into something laying on my heart and I ask a couple of things of everyone who chooses to comment on here. The first is please be respectful. We do not all have to agree but we can all be respectful. I do have and have always had my comments on “approval” basis to keep ugliness off as I wanted my blog to be a place where you could discuss without fear of being attacked. So, please no hate, no name calling, no pulling politics in, and no racism or your comment will not be approved. I do not mind disagreeing with me just no hate. Thanks.
First let me say that I can understand the anger that is being felt right now by the deaths…unnecessary deaths of two Black men. I think besides the deaths, the part that makes me the angriest is that I feel like the media fuels this anger and it then creates more things like the violent protests, destruction and more deaths. Gone are the days where the media was the watch dog and were not biased in their reporting. There was no emotionalism like there is today and emotionalism is solely to sell the stories. With what the media has posted, it has fueled the Black community and many whites even more. When there is injustice, we need people who are willing to work for solutions not create more chaos. And I feel my Black friend’s pain and the pain of the Black Community. We are more racially divided than we have been in years and that is sad.
Now, I know because I have had some say it to me in the past, that Blacks need to stop saying they need an apology for slavery and oppression because no one today was even alive during that time. And that is true. But you know what? How hard is it to say “I am so sorry that your ancestors were brought over here as slaves and mistreated and abused and their lives stolen.” We do not have to have been alive when slavery happened to be sorry that it ever happened. I certainly am sorry it ever happened especially from a country of people who came here for freedom and then they turn around and bring slaves over and they do things like push the Native Americans onto reservations, and try to take their identity by forcing them to never speak their native tongue (and I am talking both Blacks and Native Americans here), refused to let them use their native names and gave them new names….white names and mistreated many people along the way.
I grew up during segregation and integration times. I remember the police and how people treated them. I remember the signs “no colored allowed” and I remember the white and black water fountains. I remember the first Black child that was made to come to our school when integration started and how people treated her. And all I could think was how scared she must be. And there was always this part of me that could not understand what all the ugliness was about. If you cut a Black person and a White person they both bleed red. We are all humans who just happen to have different colored skin.
And the past couple of years I have felt like I was back in that time when I see all the hate and anger on both sides and see people fighting over flags, statues and the like. And the name calling is horrific and it is not limited to just racial issues. It is in politics, in the news comments, and just about everywhere else you look. Where has respect gone? Where has compassion gone? Where has love gone?
Now, I do believe that you do not hide history. Hiding history does not remove the blaring stain. We need to learn from history. We can not pretend that certain things never happened. We need to learn how to do better from the past. What is that old saying “Hind sight is 20/20″ and it is. We should be able to look back at how things have gone and see where we as a country went wrong. I can remember thinking about people one day as I was reading on slavery and on the Native Americans and other races that struggled here…”Who the hell did we think we were?” People come here for freedom and look what happens.
See, I can not tell you how it feels to be Black, to have to worry every time you go out if you are going to be stopped, to wonder every time you hear of a shooting was it one of your family. I can tell you how it feels to be disabled and be discriminated against and mistreated for that has been my life.
So, where do we go from here? We can not fix anything until we admit there is a problem and most people refuse to do that. Things are said like go back to where you came from to people born and raised here who are just as much American as I am. We have to learn to first hold the anger and not let it lead us into things that are violent. We have to learn to listen to each other and to quit hating. Hatred, racism, anger…those are things we are not born with. We are taught them. Love is also something that is taught and yet I see more hatred, racism, anger taught to our young kids than love, compassion and understanding. I had older family members that used racist terms and I worked hard to not teach that to my sons but to teach them acceptance and compassion for others.And I am proud of both of my sons. They treat everyone with respect and caring.
We have to turn the tide. We need to find ways to work for solutions. Now, what I am about to say may make some mad but I believe survivors look for solutions and those that want to remain a victim only talk about the problems. The fact that there was slavery in this country or anywhere is to me a dark spot on our history. It is a fact of history. But we can not use slavery as an excuse to do wrong, to hate, to do violence, to destroy property, etc. We have to learn how to express the anger in a better way that works towards figuring out what is needed to make things better. And that being a survivor…working for a solution.
In some ways things are much better with racial tensions. I mean for the first time we have a Black president and Blacks in positions such as senators/congress, judges, and the DOJ. So some things have improved. So what else needs to be done to improve racial tensions? I agree that better training, better accountability, cameras on all law enforcement, better mental evaluation needs to be done. But in a climate where “hate the cops”, “the cops are ALL bad”, and other things are being taught, the tension increases between cops and Blacks. And then we have people who do not respond properly to cops, are disrespectful and fight back and it ends up a struggle and someone gets hurt. How do we fix this?
I have two videos I want you all to watch. The first is a video of Jarrett Maupin, who is “a vocal critic of police during recent protests and he went through force training with local authorities.” to see what being a cop was like. He said he had a totally different perspective after doing that because he saw how you could end up shooting someone because things happen in a split second. That is not to say all police shootings are justified. It is just another perspective on the other side of the coin.
video by FOX 10 Phoenix
And the last video is a Black cop in Dallas as he expresses how he feels about the officers shot. He makes one statement that I love and that is “”I refuse to see hate live while love dies” We have to find a way to stop the epidemic of hate and turn it into something productive that changes the way things are.
Sorry folks, the youtuber who posted this video removed it, so here is a link to the video of this awesome cop and what he had to say.
It has taken me time to process all my emotions on the shootings in Orlando. I have felt grief, anger, resentment, frustration, compassion, and shock. My heart breaks for the families that lost loved ones and those that survived.
I am angry that this was allowed to happen on our soil. I am angry that LGBT were targeted because of hate and because of a religion that calls for their deaths here and across the world. I am angry that people in power are trying to minimize this and down play it and are trying to turn it into a gay issue when it is a hate issue and are trying to use it for gun control.
I am angry that ridiculous people who call themselves “Christians” are saying this is God’s judgement on the LGBT. NO, it is not. This is hatred and terrorism pure and simple. Christ was about love and compassion and if someone’s religion calls on them to hate people and/or kill them, then they need to look for a new religion. Not all followers of Christ feel the way these so-called Christians are talking.
I am angry that so many seem to have no compassion. There are mothers and fathers crying who lost their children. Brothers and sisters who lost their siblings, partners who lost their partners and friends who lost their friends. Where is the compassion and love? We should be offering love and support not more hatred.
And I am angry enough that I will NEVER allow my anger to turn me into someone like this man who is despicable and murdered all of those young people because they were told to hate them and kill them. We must make love win out.
Many prayers for these people suffering now from their loss and from the trauma done to them. And my heart breaks for them. The only thing I can say to them is I am so sorry this happened…so sorry. It was so wrong. And I hope they know many people around the country love and care about them.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23
The Orlando shooting really has my head spinning. Have we totally lost our moral compass? Seems like all you read anymore in the news is shootings, murders, rapes, political corruption, and the list goes on. And all we see on the internet is arguing, ugliness, bullying and attacking….internet vigilantes. We have to be accountable for our own actions and I see so much inappropriate behavior that I wonder has the moral compass been lost.
My heart goes out to all those families with loved ones who were killed in this mass shooting and I send prayers to the survivors and the families. No one for any reason should be a victim of hate. I know many that “call” themselves Christian spew hate for various reasons but if they were truly following Christ, they would act like Christ who was about love, compassion and caring. But so many are so busy judging others that they evidently do not have time to study the Bible and see what it really says. Paul tells us we are not to judge others. Jesus exhibits that over and over. He told the Pharisees and Priests that brought the woman into Jesus wanting her stoned for committing adultery and Jesus reply was “He who is without sin throw the first stone” and they all left. So I ask people who have been victims of all this hate to know that not all of us who say we follow Christ hate others.
Now this shooting the man was said to have called the FBI and said it was an ISIS job. What more do we need? And yet it seems like some would rather do anything than say why this man did this. Overseas, they have targeted LGBT people and have killed them and beheaded them. If you never admit there is a problem, the problem can not be fixed. Banning guns will not fix it because it will not stop the criminals, the thugs, the mentally ill from acquiring some weapon. We have to start addressing the problem and start reigning in our own anger/hatred/etc. And we have to know the truth of what has happened and not get derailed into other areas. Yes, there are some who will try to tell is it is all of us that is the problem and it is not the hatred groups doing this. And again I say, if the truth is not told, if the real problem is not admitted then it will never be fixed. We can not let ourselves turn into the kind of person we do not like.
Don’t tell half-truths and expect trust when the full truth comes out. Half truths are no better than lies….
I wish the media would read this and understand it. When they manipulate the news, withhold news, do not tell the total truth, they are lying to us. Is is pitiful that we have to look at other country’s news stations or hunt independent ones to know what is really going on in our country. But, if you are a person that wants the truth and wants to know what our government is really doing, you will hunt for the truth.
We were created perfect. People did not come into this world hating. They learn it as they grow up. I remember working to make sure my sons did not have prejudice or racial hatred towards others no matter what their skin color was, where they came from, what sex they were or sexual orientation. That is not our job to judge that. Our job as Jesus told us is to love the Lord with all our hearts and all our souls and to love our neighbor (meaning all the other people in the world” as we love ourselves and if everyone did that, we would not have hatred. I come from the hippy generation where all we wanted was peace and I think that is why all this hatred and anger really bother me. And the young generation has learned a lot of anger and hatred and are ready to attack and scream for any reason. That saddens me. Why not take that energy albeit negative energy and turn it into something positive. Every thing that crosses our mind does not have to come out our mouths.
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If you live your life with integrity, honesty and morals, then expect those around you to do the same. I grew up hearing that expression that “birds of a feather flock together” and it was not until I got older that I realized that another expression “we are known by the people we associate with” was saying the same thing. If we believe in integrity, honesty, ethics, love, compassion and kindness, then we should be hanging around with people who believe like we do. People with similar beliefs and likes tend to hang out together. Those that are big drinkers hang around those that are drinkers. Those that like to party hang around those that like to party. Those that are church goers hang around other church going people. And those that are filled with love and kindness and caring and integrity tend to hang around others that are the same. And those that like to play games, lie and deceive tend to hang around others that like to do that too. So, I believe we hang around or associate with those who have the same moral compass as we do. So, if you are starting to notice that your moral compass is off kilter, perhaps you need to start associating with a different group of people.
Pay attention to those around you and look for the fruits of the spirit which are love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith and when you find people who are the same you will find you have a much more joy filled and happy life. Look for those that are honest, ethical and have a sense of community about them. Just a hint is that if you get in a group of people who are always spewing hate, attacking others, putting others down, etc then you have stepped into the wrong group. And if you get in a group that is sweet and loving and caring but does all the hating and attacking, etc, you have fallen into a group whose moral compass has gone astray. Once you become aware, then you will recognize that some of the sugary sweet things they say really have a knife in the middle of the bouquet. Be accountable for yourself and your views in life and what you say to others for this is real life not a rehearsal. We do not get another chance.
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