Friendship is a wonderful thing. People have all different definitions of friendship. And there are many different levels of friendship. I have friends that I have had since high school and have not seen them since high school but I still consider them friends and even though we do not talk, if they called me and said I need you…I would do my best to be there. I have friends I talk to daily. I have friends I talk to occasionally. And I have friends I no longer speak to. And I have friends that I find that I can not really associate with because I do not believe in what they are doing. It violates my values but I still care about them. I still love them.
Because of social media outlets, the real meaning of friendship has become blurred. People do not know what real friendship is. With social media outlets you will hear people tell you they love you and they are your friend and they totally support you and then the next day they may be with another set of friends. That is not real friendship. To me, it just says that they are adept liars and after whatever they can get. And when the next well runs dry, they will move on to another.
“Where does all the fake love come from? Is it them or is it me?”
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“True friends are like diamonds, precious but rare. Fake friends are like fall leaves, found everywhere.”
Nor do many know what real friendship is NOT. It is not agreeing with everything the other person says or does. It is not lying for them or defending them when they are wrong. It is not never getting irritated with them or angry with them. I can not imagine a real relationship where no one ever got irritated or angry or never said something the other person did not like. We are not the Stepford Wives here. It is standing by them even when you disagree. It is feeling free enough to say I do not agree with what you are doing or saying. Real friends are totally honest with each other and do not expect someone to mirror what they want. They could just look in the mirror and get that. Real friends are trustworthy and if you talk in confidence, they keep it in confidence.
I personally am the type that if I am your friend, I am your friend. I do not put conditions on it. I do not leave you because I do not like what you say or do or do not like that you disagree with me. I do not expect friends to be perfect. I do expect them to be honest but even when they are not…I am still a friend. And I am honest with friends, even when it is to say I do not think what you are doing is right. I love in spite of….not because of. That is a real friend in my definition.Real friends do not have to pretend or agree just to make someone happy. The only thing that makes me back away is when I am attacked or I find that people are lying to me. Something I personally can not stand. But, even when I back away…I am not like so many and just turn my back. I am still a friend. See, friendship does not end just because one person says they are no longer a friend. Not if it was a real friendship in the heart.
With so many using “friend” in so many different ways, I decided to see what the Bible said about friendship and friends. For I find that sometimes people use the word friend to mean someone who shows attention, someone who agrees with all you say, someone who gives money or gifts…and the real meaning of a real friend…a good friend…is lost in all that
16 Have I therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth?
I never thought about it in terms like above but I do believe in telling the truth as gently as you can but always the truth. And yes, occasionally I have had someone I considered a real friend get mad because they did not want to hear the truth and I became the enemy. Which is sad but I still would tell them the truth again.
I started reading on quotes on real friends. I loved this one for only a real friend will tell you the truth even when you do not want to hear it. A real friend will not let you go out looking bad. They will try to stop you when you are doing something that will get you in trouble. A real friend cares about YOU.
Only your real friends will tell you when your face is dirty.
The friend is the man who knows all about you, and still loves you.
~Elbert Hubbard, The Notebook, 1927
A real friend is one of the nicest things you can have, and one of the best things you can be.
I have always believed that life was about choices. We can not always choose what happens to us or others but we CAN choose how we respond to it. And we CAN choose to do good instead of harm.
Last night I was trying to catch up on the news and came across a report that caught my attention and my heart. A Detective was trying to apprehend a man who stole money from a convenient store and came running out of the store. He struggled with the man trying to get him under control and handcuffed and as seems to be the usual, there were people standing around filming hoping to catch another bad cop video to put on social media.
The Detective yelled for someone to help him. Two men and I will note that they are Black, who were filming and admit they were filming because they hoped to catch another bad cop in action decided to help the officer. One man was still holding his camera as he helped wrestle the man to the ground and be handcuffed.
Now, wait a minute. This is not how the story usually goes, is it? Since when do the ones that believe all cops are killers come to help a cop? This shows we CAN make good choices instead of ones that are harmful like standing by and doing nothing and doing nothings is a choice too. And wait a minute, since people believe all cops are racist and murderers and all whites are racist and all blacks are thugs, where did these two men come from for they are certainly NOT thugs. See how harmful labels are.
This is a story I wish more media would pick up and more people would pay attention to. Color should not matter when it comes to helping someone. It should not matter period but many will not help someone who is not of their race. And these two men are heroes in my book for they decided if they went and helped then maybe a shooting would not happen.
This brings up a point that many do not seem to understand. We should be on the ride of right no matter what color, what sex, what religion, etc. And right in this case was helping the officer subdue the man before more force was needed. And their help was greatly appreciated by the officer.
It truly is time we drop the labels. They belong on soup cans not on people. We are all one thing….human beings. And it is time we dropped the hate. YES, we need to clean up some of the training used by law enforcement and get rid of the few that are truly racist but I think these two men saw that being a police officer is not always an easy job and saw that a white man was trying to avoid hurting the offender.
I hope you will take the time to watch the video and read the link for it is a really uplifting one and shows me that we can find peace among people if we want to. I hope and pray that we can learn to look at people and see their hearts instead of their color, religion or sex. I hope and pray that we can start looking for the positive instead of looking for “another video to prove a cop is bad” or anything else negative. We are what we take in and if all we take in is negativity and hatred, then that is all that our hearts will be filled with.
This in the article is so true. “What the incident captured instead wasn’t the worst aspect of police brutality, but the best example of officers and citizens banding together.” And until we are willing to come together instead of keeping the division going, we will not have this kind of cooperation.
Bystander expects to record police brutality, ends up helping officer
#HarveyandKirbySample, #unity, #overcomingdivision
Life is a continuous state of learning if we choose to learn. I love learning new things and reading on new, innovative things. Being chronically ill and in severe pain a lot, researching on the internet gives me an outlet when I can not do much more than lay here. It also helps distract me as I use alternative methods for my pain along with traditional methods to try and deal with such severe pain.
I went to the doctor for the severe pain in my feet and I mean severe. As I told the doctor, just touching or barely bumping my feet on something feels like someone is trying to saw my foot or my toes off with a dull saw. It really is horrific and has made life quite difficult for the past months. This doctor checked my feet and we talked about what I had been diagnosed with, which Neuropathy was one of the things, what had already been used and we discussed a few things he wanted to try plus he wants me to see a vascular doctor.
Now this is where the learning came in. I mentioned a few of the things my pain specialist uses to try to help my pain which two of them are Voltaren gel and Lidocaine gel. I use the Voltaren on many different areas of my body but the Lidocaine I was using solely on my feet along with my medications. So, this doctor recommended me using a “specialty pharmacy” and having them create a cream made just for me and my problems. I had never heard of a specialty pharmacy and so looked it up when I got home. Meanwhile, my doctor was contacting one to create this cream for my feet.
A specialty pharmacy according to this website https://www.pharmacist.com/specialty-pharmacy says that a Specialty Pharmacy “focuses on high cost, high touch medication therapy for patients with complex disease states. Medications in specialty pharmacy range from oral to cutting edge injectable and biologic products. The disease states treated range from cancer, multiple sclerosis and rheumatoid arthritis to rare genetic conditions.” I was impressed. I knew many countries go to a compounding Pharmacist who makes their medicine right there instead of a bottle from a pharmacy company like here.
One of my biggest problems with taking more pills to help the pain was that I have a large ulcer and three or four smaller ones so I can not take certain medications by mouth. For example, one medicine they use for nerve pain is Neurontin or Gabapentin which is the generic. So, I could see where my doctor was going. He wanted something I could apply directly to the pain instead of just swallowing it and it affecting my whole body.
I get a call a few days later from the Specialty Pharmacy telling me they had made my cream and would be shipping it to me and it was covered by my insurance. That was a huge worry for me as some things that are “different” insurance will not cover. The day I got it, I read all the instructions and it was created where I just pumped the container twice for each foot and it gave me an exact amount. This cream contains Gabapentin, Lidocaine and some other ingredients.
Not expecting great results I applied it to my feet that night and what the medicine is supposed to do is block the signal as much as possible of pain that my feet were sending to my brain. I actually slept that night better than ever and I apply this every six hours. Just to tell you how much it helped, shortly before it is time again, I could feel the pain again and it was horrible. I reapplied and it went down again but I kept thinking wow, that pain is so horrific I do not know how I was standing it.
No, my pain is not all disappeared as I have joint pain, muscle pain, nerve pain from my spine and like building blocks, what this cream did was help remove one area of pain which makes my over all pain level better. So, if you are like me and have a lot of pain but can not take some of the medicines orally that they use for pain, try asking your doctor about Specialty Pharmacies and maybe they can create something just for you that might help. They deal with some of the worst diseases like cancer, MS, RA and other extremely painful conditions and because I have so many things wrong, they were an answer from God for me. And I learned something new.
Now, let me start off by saying that I am not into conspiracy theories, BUT there comes a time when you have to wonder. I am sure everyone has been seeing all the theories on HRC and what is wrong with her and is she using body doubles because she is so sick. I saw the video of her collapse at the Memorial service and the seizure like episodes and that is not normal health.
Let me clarify something before I talk about all of this. I am not a Democrat nor am I a Republican but I am definitely an American. I vote by the person not by party. When people ask me what I am I always tell them I am an American. I personally hate “parties” and think they have been the downfall of our country.
So, back to the conspiracy theories out there. People and a lot of people believe they are using body doubles for HRC and have gone to great lengths to try to prove their point. They go by eye color, by hair, by weight, by her hands, by her smile and her wrinkles and the list goes on. Some of them have great points but you still never know truth from fiction.
These are the things that make me think that HRC is critically ill and that the Democrats are trying to hide it. First off, main stream media avoids mentioning anything about all these health issues even when they are quite obvious. If there is nothing to hide, why hide it. The videos I have seen of her appearing to have seizures, the blue glasses, the collapse to where they literally threw her in the van leaving her shoe behind tell me something is bad wrong with HRC. Why are they hiding it, why is she avoiding the media, why is she having all these spells? And all through all the coverage that is done by individuals and smaller news media, my mind is screaming “Does NO ONE care about this woman’s health????” That is what bothers me.
So then I have to ask are the Democrats, the Clintons and everyone around her so determined to get her into office even though she is very ill that they would lie and hide things? Of course we know politicians lie so that answers my question but I just can not fathom that Chelsea and Bill love HRC so little that they would let her be treated like luggage, led around by a handler, doubles used for her and her even being reported that she was dead. So, what is going on here?
I have a video. There are many of them out there on you tube. Just look for them. But this one makes valid points with pictures of HRC. So, I ask you to please with an open mind watch the video and do not fall into cult like mode where you will defend anything and everything. We have brains and we have reasoning powers. Some we can say oh just conspiracy theories. But a lot like how does Hillary change weight within a couple of hours, how does she go from wrinkled on her neck and face to a firm neck and barely any wrinkles, from blue-eyed to brown-eyed and back are things I think anyone with any sense would say what is going on here.
I do not mind anyone disagreeing with me but I ask that no hate and attacking be done. We will never come together as a country if we remain so divided that we are not willing to listen to things that are happening and I want someone, ANYONE to care about her health. I may not have been for her as President but I definitely am for her as a human being and what I have seen is horrific for her to go through. Can we put politics aside and look at HRC as a human being who deserves to be treated right and taken care of health wise?
Video by Aggroed Lighthacker
Turned out to be a longer sabbatical than I thought it would be but a much-needed one. Things are still rough as my spine is not fixed yet, I am being sent to a vascular doctor for my feet and lower legs and just had endoscopy which showed up one large ulcer and three smaller (not small…just smaller) ulcers in my stomach. I go back in six weeks for a repeat to see if the meds are helping.
I have wanted to write on this topic for a while. It seems the world wants to keep dividing instead of multiplying or uniting like we should. We pass around more labels than ever before and labels belong on soup cans. And I look at the destruction that has been done to my country over the past months and think with such sadness of how we all came together after 9/11 to join forces: No division and no fighting just bringing unity. I pray it does not take that again for us to wake up.
So, what has laid on my mind and heart is this. Every time we pass on a picture of ugliness, or racism, of killing, of extreme negativity we are helping keep it alive. Did you ever think about that. We think we are helping but all we are doing is reminding people of things that keep people divided. There is just so much craziness that if I did not have the complete faith in God, my Father, in Christ, my savior, I might succumb to the fear so many have. I just know that God takes care of his own. And I also know that when people are in a state of fear or anger, they do not think rationally. I truly believe that we need to have better investigation of these crimes and I believe the media needs to quit feeding info to keep people stirred up.
I have never constantly pushed my health issues in the front for everyone to see. Why? Because I don’t want pity, I don’t want attention, I just want to serve the Lord and if it means doing it hurting then so be it. I believe Satan keeps throwing these things at me so I will stop working for the Lord but I will not stop. And I know when I can not go a step further, God is carrying me.
So, lets talk about unity. We can not have unity if all we do is use labels. Labels divide and make distinctions between us. When we label others or ourselves, we are drawing a line saying they are different from me. How can you unify if we are always putting labels on everything. I remember watching a Black man teaching his daughter who started school for the first time and he had her repeating things like….I am good, I am not bad, no one is better them me, I am kind, I am beautiful. I thought it was beautiful because he was trying to prepare her for the ugliness that can occur when we send our kids off to school. And where do these kids who yell out obscenities and name calling learn how to do this? Someone has TAUGHT them whether it be the parents, the grandparents, the siblings…someone close to the child has taught them to hate and name call.
This is my take on these riots. When they destroy property and hurt people, they cease being a rioter and become criminals. Some Blacks were out there trying to get people to stop fighting and to talk but they would not. They even tried to set a journalist on fire and the journalists said it was too dangerous to stay and cover the story now. When has it ever been that bad in our country before besides Ferguson and Baltimore and this case. How is this helping the situation? Or is the hate and name calling increasing the violence? I think adults should be able to discuss and I do not think any person, cop or not, in their right mind would be showing up with the intent to kill, not with the way the hate climate is right now. There will always be ugliness in the world, on the internet and we have to make a choice to NOT fall into their games to get us to react. I recently had a “self-proclaimed Christian” make disparaging and insulting remarks about me and because I have known this person for years and years and know what they are truly like, I just had to smile and go on my way. I could have let myself get drawn into the drama that they like to stir but I do not like games and I definitely do not like the drama. Life is full of choices and I don’t need flowery religious pictures and quotes to get my point across. Life is full of choices including being happy and we have to choose just like we have to choose to not get caught up in the hatred, racism, and games people like to play.
Just to let you all know I am taking a short sabbatical due to health reasons. I am having severe spinal issues and leg issues and torn rotator cuff issues which have sidelined me.
I ask you please to not give up on me or unsubscribe as I will be back soon. It is just hard for me to think with this much pain. I have had injections into the shoulder joint to try to help and had OMT’s performed on me to try to help.
Sometimes life throws us curve balls and seems to stop us in our tracks but those that have followed me for very long know this about me:
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I thank you all who read my blog for you lift my heart and give me purpose. And I thank all of you who have bought my Poetry book off Amazon. That was a major accomplishment for me as was getting 1000 plus subscribers. Thank you from my heart. Please do not give up on me so that I do not give up on me.
And a very special thank you to those of you who have bought my book and written reviews on it. You have touched my heart deeply and have inspired me to keep going and do the work I believe God has laid out for me. Love you all.
You all have heard me say that victims only talk about all the things wrong and all the problems. Survivors know the things wrong and they look for solutions to help make things better. So, my question today as I look around the internet and I see massive amounts of media posting the most ugly, negative post you can about cops, about politicians, about people in general is where are the warriors?
I can tell you a few of them for I see them. There are Black cops who are trying to reach the ones that are hating, fighting and creating more problems and help calm the storm. Nothing good comes from such agitation. There are other people out there of all races who are striving to calm the storm so that we can all listen and come to conclusions. There are cops all over who are trying to help those that are in such need and trying to show the love and compassion we want from our law enforcement. There are teachers who are taking training trying to understand better how to have discussion on this to find solutions to bring unity to us all.
And then I see those that want to argue on every positive post and make comments that are negative or to try to prove their point that either this side or that side is bad. We do not need to prove. We need to find solutions to help everyone be the person they can be to the fullest. How is it helping the situation for White people who think they are “helping” to keep posting stories about how this cop or that cop was evil or did something bad? Why not post things that are positive that people are trying to do to heal the broken trust, to do good and to make the relationship better on both sides?
I watched as angry White people threw in the face of angry Black people how their own people sold them as slaves. I just felt my jaw drop and I had to write on that thread…”So, your point is what? That because some Blacks in Africa sold their own for money then it is alright? Wrong is wrong people. And slavery was wrong. I am so ashamed our country did that and that any country does it.But the wrong does have ramifications.
And then I heard angry Black people throw in the faces of angry White people how all Cops and all White people are nothing but killers and racists. Seriously folks, how is this helping? All Whites are not racist and killers and all Blacks are not thugs and criminals. Can we stop the blame game and move on to the healing that needs to be done. Are there bad Cops? Yes. Are there Black people who have done bad things? Yes, just as there are of any race. We acknowledge that so can we now work on solutions? That means people of each race trying to calm their own so that people can talk and can learn and not be so filled with hate at each other.
Just a thought….we do not have to tell all the bad stories about Cops or White people to solve the problems. Now do we have to tell all the bad stories about blacks who committed crimes or did this or that. We need warrior attitude which is find solutions for the problems and promote the positive that IS going on with both sides. Remember my saying….Victims focus on all the things wrong and that is all they talk about. Survivors know the things wrong and they focus and talk about ways to make things better. All Whites are not racist nor haters and all Blacks are not thugs and criminals. Only a small portion of our country is that way. Those of us that want to change things are tired of the media and of people presenting everything they “heard” that is bad about Whites or about Blacks. We can not have any form of healing if all we do is focus on the problems and never work on solutions. Negativity, hatred and racism just produce more negativity, hatred and racism.
How about we produce positive things going on like the boy I posted about who was living in a tent so he could go to college because he wanted to make his life better and the cops helped him. That was a two-way street. This young man was polite, he did not fight, he did not argue and the cops actually sat down and listened to what was going on and found a way to help him. Now that my friends is promoting unity in our country.
Maybe if you are one of those so angry from either side, the next time you feel like spewing hater or telling the world once again all the bad things Cops did or all the bad things Blacks did or all the bad things White people did, you take a time out. Go sit down somewhere and think about the good things any of these people have done and write them down. Look for the good and you will find it and promote the good. We can not always control what happens to us in life but we CAN control how we react to it. If we only think about the bad things and we only look for bad things, that is all we will see. Like a camera, maybe we should change our focus and turn our lens to the good things.
This poem is one of my favorites. It was written about children but I think it applies to adults too. It is called “Children Learn What They Live”. As you read it, I want to ask you to read it in the context of what have you been teaching people about themselves? Have we been teaching people to hate or to fear or to think they are no good? Just think about it as you read this and only you can answer that within your heart. It has made me more conscious of what I say to others for this is no dress rehearsal. We get one chance in this world and I want my chance to be one where I uplift others and love others.
Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte
Video of the boy who rode his brother’s bike six miles and was sleeping in a tent so that he could enter college and what happened. Awesome story: http://www.wsbtv.com/news/local/homeless-teen-bikes-6-hours-to-get-to-college-sleeps-in-tent/401160413?ea2CcF
I have had an extremely hard time writing lately. This is going to be rambling rose here as I try to work through all of this. I have people tell me how strong I am and I am especially when it comes to dealing with all the health issues. But lately, I have been a gardenia. And for those that do not know what that means, a gardenia is a delicate flower and if you touch it, it bruises. I can handle most anything anymore but what has made my heart heavy is all the hate, anger, violence that we see on the media, in politics, in the country here and everywhere. It is bad enough we are warring with other countries but we have warred within ourselves here in our own country. And that to me is beyond sad for a country divided will fall. So, get your coffee or coke, pull up a chair and listen to me ramble here.
I have written some in the past like on the shooting in Orlando and other places and the shootings the past few days have really saddened my heart. Why, oh why can people not just show compassion and love. There are parents and family members who lost their loved ones that are crying and grieving. Are we incapable of feeling compassion for that? No matter the reason the killings are a tragedy that has affected many, and I cautioned many against making early judgments about what happened in those two shootings for one reason. That reason was that when you get so angry that you start making statements that include with anger the words “All”, “Every”, and “Never”, you are fueling your anger and sparking this kind of anger in others. Nothing is “all”. All cops are not bad. All Blacks are not thugs. All whites are not racist. See my point here? Anger can be a good thing. It is what you do with that anger that matters. Dallas is a good example of that with 5 dead White policemen.
I am going to delve into something laying on my heart and I ask a couple of things of everyone who chooses to comment on here. The first is please be respectful. We do not all have to agree but we can all be respectful. I do have and have always had my comments on “approval” basis to keep ugliness off as I wanted my blog to be a place where you could discuss without fear of being attacked. So, please no hate, no name calling, no pulling politics in, and no racism or your comment will not be approved. I do not mind disagreeing with me just no hate. Thanks.
First let me say that I can understand the anger that is being felt right now by the deaths…unnecessary deaths of two Black men. I think besides the deaths, the part that makes me the angriest is that I feel like the media fuels this anger and it then creates more things like the violent protests, destruction and more deaths. Gone are the days where the media was the watch dog and were not biased in their reporting. There was no emotionalism like there is today and emotionalism is solely to sell the stories. With what the media has posted, it has fueled the Black community and many whites even more. When there is injustice, we need people who are willing to work for solutions not create more chaos. And I feel my Black friend’s pain and the pain of the Black Community. We are more racially divided than we have been in years and that is sad.
Now, I know because I have had some say it to me in the past, that Blacks need to stop saying they need an apology for slavery and oppression because no one today was even alive during that time. And that is true. But you know what? How hard is it to say “I am so sorry that your ancestors were brought over here as slaves and mistreated and abused and their lives stolen.” We do not have to have been alive when slavery happened to be sorry that it ever happened. I certainly am sorry it ever happened especially from a country of people who came here for freedom and then they turn around and bring slaves over and they do things like push the Native Americans onto reservations, and try to take their identity by forcing them to never speak their native tongue (and I am talking both Blacks and Native Americans here), refused to let them use their native names and gave them new names….white names and mistreated many people along the way.
I grew up during segregation and integration times. I remember the police and how people treated them. I remember the signs “no colored allowed” and I remember the white and black water fountains. I remember the first Black child that was made to come to our school when integration started and how people treated her. And all I could think was how scared she must be. And there was always this part of me that could not understand what all the ugliness was about. If you cut a Black person and a White person they both bleed red. We are all humans who just happen to have different colored skin.
And the past couple of years I have felt like I was back in that time when I see all the hate and anger on both sides and see people fighting over flags, statues and the like. And the name calling is horrific and it is not limited to just racial issues. It is in politics, in the news comments, and just about everywhere else you look. Where has respect gone? Where has compassion gone? Where has love gone?
Now, I do believe that you do not hide history. Hiding history does not remove the blaring stain. We need to learn from history. We can not pretend that certain things never happened. We need to learn how to do better from the past. What is that old saying “Hind sight is 20/20″ and it is. We should be able to look back at how things have gone and see where we as a country went wrong. I can remember thinking about people one day as I was reading on slavery and on the Native Americans and other races that struggled here…”Who the hell did we think we were?” People come here for freedom and look what happens.
See, I can not tell you how it feels to be Black, to have to worry every time you go out if you are going to be stopped, to wonder every time you hear of a shooting was it one of your family. I can tell you how it feels to be disabled and be discriminated against and mistreated for that has been my life.
So, where do we go from here? We can not fix anything until we admit there is a problem and most people refuse to do that. Things are said like go back to where you came from to people born and raised here who are just as much American as I am. We have to learn to first hold the anger and not let it lead us into things that are violent. We have to learn to listen to each other and to quit hating. Hatred, racism, anger…those are things we are not born with. We are taught them. Love is also something that is taught and yet I see more hatred, racism, anger taught to our young kids than love, compassion and understanding. I had older family members that used racist terms and I worked hard to not teach that to my sons but to teach them acceptance and compassion for others.And I am proud of both of my sons. They treat everyone with respect and caring.
We have to turn the tide. We need to find ways to work for solutions. Now, what I am about to say may make some mad but I believe survivors look for solutions and those that want to remain a victim only talk about the problems. The fact that there was slavery in this country or anywhere is to me a dark spot on our history. It is a fact of history. But we can not use slavery as an excuse to do wrong, to hate, to do violence, to destroy property, etc. We have to learn how to express the anger in a better way that works towards figuring out what is needed to make things better. And that being a survivor…working for a solution.
In some ways things are much better with racial tensions. I mean for the first time we have a Black president and Blacks in positions such as senators/congress, judges, and the DOJ. So some things have improved. So what else needs to be done to improve racial tensions? I agree that better training, better accountability, cameras on all law enforcement, better mental evaluation needs to be done. But in a climate where “hate the cops”, “the cops are ALL bad”, and other things are being taught, the tension increases between cops and Blacks. And then we have people who do not respond properly to cops, are disrespectful and fight back and it ends up a struggle and someone gets hurt. How do we fix this?
I have two videos I want you all to watch. The first is a video of Jarrett Maupin, who is “a vocal critic of police during recent protests and he went through force training with local authorities.” to see what being a cop was like. He said he had a totally different perspective after doing that because he saw how you could end up shooting someone because things happen in a split second. That is not to say all police shootings are justified. It is just another perspective on the other side of the coin.
video by FOX 10 Phoenix
And the last video is a Black cop in Dallas as he expresses how he feels about the officers shot. He makes one statement that I love and that is “”I refuse to see hate live while love dies” We have to find a way to stop the epidemic of hate and turn it into something productive that changes the way things are.
Sorry folks, the youtuber who posted this video removed it, so here is a link to the video of this awesome cop and what he had to say.