Priority or Option? The Choice is Yours.

One of my favorite quotes has to do with how you allow others to treat you and how you treat yourself. Sometimes in life, we compromise for the sake of love we think but in reality we are compromising our very being. When we make someone the most important thing in our lives, we should get the same in return.

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We should never settle for second best just for the sake of having a relationship of any kind,  We are worth loving…all of us and we deserve to have the same kind of love that we give..a deep, abiding love.  Have you ever changed in order to be what someone else wanted? Have you ever submerged yourself into the likes and desires of someone else to have a relationship to the point of ignoring your own likes and desires?  Have you ever become a copy of what you thought other people wanted you to be in order to be friends with them?

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I remember a quote once that said that we teach people how to treat us by how we treat ourselves. If we do not value ourselves then how can we expect anyone else to value us. If we always take the left overs, the last, and put everyone else first then we have shown people to treat us second best. If we have no respect for ourselves, how can anyone else?

“You teach people how to treat you means that it all comes back to you. It’s up to you to allow or not allow certain treatment. It also means that you have to first get clear about how you want to be treated. It means that you have to take responsibility enough to write your own owner’s manual. And you are accountable for living by your owner’s manual. For some of us, it may be the very first time we ever even gave this any thought.

(Remember that accountability and responsibility have nothing to do with blame. They are an entirely different energy and intent than blame. Blame seeks to shame and belittle. Responsibility seeks to un-victim you.)”

Christine Kane

I think it boils down to valuing yourself….to believing that you deserve more than being someone’s option while you are making them a priority…believing that how you are is just fine and you do not need to be a mirror of someone else to have friends…that it is important to value yourself, respect yourself and stand up for yourself. You are worth it.